Her ex is stealing her back

[Sheasta]

So to update you guys. I realize I was being a pvssy. I followed the advice and it worked better than I thought. She was completely caught off guard by my aloofness. Just to clerify we had been talking for 2 months , and actually hooking up for 2 weeks. My mind wasn't hazy. Miscommunication.

So I started hanging with this other girl. Not nearly as gorgeous but still like a 7. I still want to fvck the other girl way more even though I already have. Do I need to try to find another 9 to not give a sh1t about this first girl anymore? Or maybe I actually care and I'm not just pvssy whipped? Also I've been in no contact with this girl since that night and now she started texting me again. Should I ignore her?

 

[nismo-4]

Your princess is or will soon be in another castle. Detach yourself now. Listen to Harry.

Case closed.

 

[RedScorpion]

So to update you guys. I realize I was being a pvssy. I followed the advice and it worked better than I thought. She was completely caught off guard by my aloofness. Just to clerify we had been talking for 2 months , and actually hooking up for 2 weeks. My mind wasn't hazy. Miscommunication.

So I started hanging with this other girl. Not nearly as gorgeous but still like a 7. I still want to fvck the other girl way more even though I already have. Do I need to try to find another 9 to not give a sh1t about this first girl anymore? Or maybe I actually care and I'm not just pvssy whipped? Also I've been in no contact with this girl since that night and now she started texting me again. Should I ignore her?

I think you should approach this more generalistic than specifically. You know that how you acted that night was the correct move, by exactly how she reacted. She was caught off guard, because she was expecting to be 'convinced' to be with you, instead of this 'ok gl'. It demonstrates that you don't have that much riding on her, meaning all sorts of good stuff that puts you at a higher value. She's texting you because she wants your validation (which is still good).

Instead of focusing on what she's doing, just reframe yourself. How would a man act? How would a self-confident, high value, man be? The only way you'll 'win' her, is if she believes you're higher value to chase after, than her ex. And that can only be done by her. But also trim any attachment you have to her, to safeguard yourself (as she may flounder with her ex for x amount of time yet, and pining away does nothing to help).

Maybe not complete ignoring, but just act as she's a much lower priority. But not specifically avoiding. Hard to say.

 

[goldengoose]

So to update you guys. I realize I was being a pvssy. I followed the advice and it worked better than I thought. She was completely caught off guard by my aloofness. Just to clerify we had been talking for 2 months , and actually hooking up for 2 weeks. My mind wasn't hazy. Miscommunication.

So I started hanging with this other girl. Not nearly as gorgeous but still like a 7. I still want to fvck the other girl way more even though I already have. Do I need to try to find another 9 to not give a sh1t about this first girl anymore? Or maybe I actually care and I'm not just pvssy whipped? Also I've been in no contact with this girl since that night and now she started texting me again. Should I ignore her?

Doesn't matter how hazy it was, it's over, and she was no 9.

 

[expos]

Man, Sheasta...she's probably not that great.

And you are not the chump here. Her ex is! You just blasted this chick and now he's getting YOUR leftovers. It will always be the back of his head that you smashed her in the time they were apart.

Another way to look it at is that she'll just find another guy like you to substitute in when her ex isn't doing it for her anymore. Don't expect her to change her behavior in anyway.

The way I see it, this is a win-win situation.

1. You got laid - women like this are only good for banging and she's not relationship material.
2. You dropped a low-level, indecisive branch swinger who would probably give you a lot of trouble in the future.

Run away!

 

[Lotus Effect]

There ain't much mystery on this situation...

This is (You) the classic Rebound!

Rest assured, you are the rebound dude, and there is nothing you will ever get from this situation but casual sex from time to time.

Never get attached to a rebounding girl, 'cause she is only using you to fulfill her imediate needs.

And once again, harry got it right!

 

[JoeMarron]

Thanks for the input. I'll try to lose my vag.

Lol.

I only have one piece of advice for you, never chase women.