Helping Plugged-In Friends

[Xenon]

I have a friend at work who is unsuccessful with women. I try to help him out as best as I can, but he is way to plugged in too actually take my suggestions and apply them. Everything I say he throws in my face and doesn't care. In fact, if he saw this site, he would most likely reject everything and call us all misogynists and sexists (typical, I know).

So, do you guys help your plugged in friends? And if so, how do you bring them along? I tried to start of slow, but got no traction. I'm starting to think that it's mostly a lost cause.

 

[Alvafe]

its for anything, how you can help someone if he don't want the help? some people only learn on the worse way, let him get burned maybe one day he will ask for help then you can say only if you stop being a moron and do exactly what I say

 

[Boilermaker]

I follow Danger's advice.

You don't sell your reputation. You build it and demonstrate it.

 

[Xenon]

Thank you for the Rollo link, didn't catch it this morning. I gained some respect for Stephen A. Smith, for sure.

It's funny you should mention success. I've gone to conferences with this guy where I have had ONS while he goes back to the hotel to sleep. My current girlfriend is 20 years old (I'm 28) and he thinks that's a bad thing.

Point is, if he asks, I'll start slowly, but I'm not too sure he will. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink I guess. Thanks for the advice.

 

[Jitterbug]

He's from work? If you like your job, don't help him. You're doing nothing but poisoning your career track, even if you're successful (he will brag to others and you're both doomed).

 

[Xenon]

He's from work? If you like your job, don't help him. You're doing nothing but poisoning your career track, even if you're successful (he will brag to others and you're both doomed).

I'm leaving in a few months anyway, so in that regard, it's probably ok. But otherwise, I would keep my mouth shut.

You need to live a life that shows you have a different mindset. Others will see it and question the source of this confident awareness.

In fact launching some unprovoked diatribe on the feminine imperative and the self serving, damaging nature of feminism will probably hurt your chances of leading your brothers on to the path of enlightenment.

A lone voice of reason still sounds insane in a world gone mad.

10-4

 

[yyc12]

what exactly are you showing and telling him to do?? are you considerably better looking than him?

 

[Xenon]

what exactly are you showing and telling him to do?? are you considerably better looking than him?

He pedastalizes bigtime and comes off as clingy, desperate. As far as what exactly I'm showing/telling, I honestly don't remember. Been focusing on finding a job and other things.

I would say we are close in the looks scale, but he is way out of shape and I am not.

 

[yyc12]

Well he's got to change this:

He pedastalizes bigtime

and this:

but he is way out of shape

before anything else really. He also has to want it more than you do, lol.