"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ill try to make this a quick one....ok so about two weeks ago i asked out this girl and i was rejected...she said something about to much things in her life right now to worry about a guy and i was like BS shes just trying to keep friends so she can sleep at night...then 2 days after she rejected me she IMs me and tells me something about "have u ever had something good going for you and when a thing came up you didnt take it and now u feel really stupid because u would have taken it?" and it kept going on about the same thing for a while so then at school out of nowhere she like comes next to me at the lunch line and says "bob88, ur the bestest" and gives me a hug and we talked for a while and shes been saying im the bestest for the past week now and she hugs me all the time and theres lots of kino by her part...she said she wasent gonna see me for a week and she put on a sad face and i told her yeah unless we hung out and she said would we really hang out? and i said "yeah give me ur number and ill see whats up" so she gives me the number and says "but u better call me for sure ok?" and i said yeah.....so im alitle confused right now about her...im still keeping my options open with other girls but i still think i like this girl the most so what is she trying to do here? keep me available for her needs? trying to be friendly after she rejected me?

thanx in advance for any help.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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she sounds like a potential flake. i'd make sure that im being the man in every situation with this girl. in other words, proceed with caution.
 
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Call her, set up a date, hang out with her, and see what happens. It seems to me like she regrets saying no to you...but the fact that she's already changed her decision before you two even hook up...before you even had her number...there's potential for a flakey chick on that, like that others said.
 
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how would u proceed with caution to this girl?
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Guard your heart. Don't let her little tricks get into you. Your heart is your achilles tendon in playerhood. You let a girl get to it, and it's all over...

She's already rejected you once, what's stoppin her from doing it again? What you gotta do is let HER come to you.

What you're going to do is what was said above, call her up, set up a date. Go have fun, but don't EXPECT anything. Just go out to have fun. You will create a mindset that views this girl as just fun, you will see her as unworthy to be in a relationship with you...until you think she truly wants you.

What that will do is detach you from her, therefore, you won't be so caught up in figuring out if she's good enough for a relationship. It will also cause her to run to you, and even if she doesn't, you weren't attached to her in the first place.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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From a physcological point of view, i see it like this. She doesn't like you. She rejected you. She now feels bad for you, she feels sorry for you and is trying to make it better by giving you attention. Basically it sounds (to me) like you are becoming one of her "girlfreinds"
 
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Originally posted by WesCottII
From a physcological point of view, i see it like this. She doesn't like you. She rejected you. She now feels bad for you, she feels sorry for you and is trying to make it better by giving you attention. Basically it sounds (to me) like you are becoming one of her "girlfreinds"
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so....

DON'T FALL INTO HER TRAP!!!

hang out with her once or twice, and if nothing comes out of it then just next her. plutonic friends aren't really worth your time
 
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Originally posted by WesCottII
From a physcological point of view, i see it like this. She doesn't like you. She rejected you. She now feels bad for you, she feels sorry for you and is trying to make it better by giving you attention. Basically it sounds (to me) like you are becoming one of her "girlfreinds"
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yeah thats what i thought...im not even gonna set up a date or hang out with her...i dont think shes worth it and theres other girls who would apreciate my time better
 
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Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
Guard your heart. Don't let her little tricks get into you. Your heart is your achilles tendon in playerhood. You let a girl get to it, and it's all over...
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AMEN.

thanx much guys....i love you all now
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:D haha I thought that was funny.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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