SO I HAVE BEEN dating this girl for a year...she was a virgin when i met her and i took her virginity...but ever since we started dating there was a friend of hers whom i have never met cuz we live like 35 min away from each other and he gas been tellin her since we dated that im probably cheating on her...the other day he callled her and told her some of the same stuff...how do i react when she tells me about this and what should i do about this guy...it seems like he is always tryin to put me down so she she will let me go...im not really worried about her dumping me for this guy...but it just irritates me because b4 we dated i had a rough past of dating sluts and im paranoid even tho i dont show it...i mean she always tells her friends i have no insecurities...
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ya i think my problem is just me bein paranoid... i mean i have extremely high social value...she knos i could get any girl i want...but she does 2...i mean she is super hot and on the cover of a magazine and she is constantly gettin hit on which doesnt bother me...it goes with datin a super hot chik and we just laugh about it...but the thing is im in college and she is a senior in hs...and this guy keeps tellin her how he dated a chik in college and she cheated on him several times and he never knew and that im prob doin the same and then i kno he is tryin 2 hook it up with her at the same time...he always callls her and texts her while we are out...it just pisses me off...and i would love 2 kick his ass...but im not that type of person...i really dont believe in fighting...so i guess if she did break up w/ me 4 this d-bag it would just be her loss...but i wish i could some how lose this feeling of paranoia
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If you have high social value, which means you must be having lot of guy friends as well to back you up, I'd recommend just beating the **** out of him... and why don't you ask all your female friends to talk to the girls in his high school and spread a bad name for that guy.jdawg said:ya i think my problem is just me bein paranoid... i mean i have extremely high social value...she knos i could get any girl i want...but she does 2...i mean she is super hot and on the cover of a magazine and she is constantly gettin hit on which doesnt bother me...it goes with datin a super hot chik and we just laugh about it...but the thing is im in college and she is a senior in hs...and this guy keeps tellin her how he dated a chik in college and she cheated on him several times and he never knew and that im prob doin the same and then i kno he is tryin 2 hook it up with her at the same time...he always callls her and texts her while we are out...it just pisses me off...and i would love 2 kick his ass...but im not that type of person...i really dont believe in fighting...so i guess if she did break up w/ me 4 this d-bag it would just be her loss...but i wish i could some how lose this feeling of paranoia
Use your high social value. If you didn't have social value, or couldn't fight or whatever, I'd recommend talking sincerely and directly with your girl.. tell her what he is trying to do.. and ask her whom she trusts the most... be straightforward.
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I'd just laugh it off as this guy doesn't even know you, how could he even possibly be making claims as to you cheating based on that? He has no way to back up what he says, and your girl probably sees right through this guy and realizes this.
It seems as though your girl trusts you more than him though. If you get defensive or inquisitive about it, then it may appear that you do have something to hide and that this other friend of hers might be on to something. If you shrug it off as him being harmless, then that's what his accusations will be: harmless.
Don't ever ask to meet or see this guy, and turn down any offer of her to introduce the two of you. If it were me I wouldn't want to meet or see him... for any reason. The guy clearly has no respect for you, so why should you ever want to grace him with you presence?
It seems as though your girl trusts you more than him though. If you get defensive or inquisitive about it, then it may appear that you do have something to hide and that this other friend of hers might be on to something. If you shrug it off as him being harmless, then that's what his accusations will be: harmless.
Don't ever ask to meet or see this guy, and turn down any offer of her to introduce the two of you. If it were me I wouldn't want to meet or see him... for any reason. The guy clearly has no respect for you, so why should you ever want to grace him with you presence?
The ******* in me says kick his ass, take a dump on his car/bike/doorknob, and sneak a horny goat into his house, but that's just going to end up in alot of drama (although damned funny). If this chick is hot as you say, i'd avoid it.
laugh it off, tell her the truth, and follow Cashew's advice. The less you let it bother you, the less important it'll seem to her. If you show that it does bother you, then it'll look like you're hiding something.
The goat option is always open though.
laugh it off, tell her the truth, and follow Cashew's advice. The less you let it bother you, the less important it'll seem to her. If you show that it does bother you, then it'll look like you're hiding something.
The goat option is always open though.