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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Help with Kino Escalation

Canadian Catnip

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Hi all you DJ's out there. I need help for my Achilles heal which is Kino escalation with women.

It seems I have a hard time judging when to give it and it always seems to be too late for some women.

I need to know the best way to think about kino escalation, I need a reframe. Right now I think that the girl will believe that I am just some creepy guy that's only touching her for sex. I can't shake that frame it seems.

How can I believe more in myself and believe that the women will not think negative things about me and will see me as a warm person.

Here is a strange story that happened today, I meet a girl I know and we talked for a little while and I really wanted to do some kino on her, just touch her arm or something. I kept telling myself that it was not appropriate and I should not do it. Well as we are saying goodbye she does this almost imperceptible movement with her arms, she seemed to start to move them up as if to give me a hug then she put them back down again. It was super quick but I am almost certain that thats what she did. It was like a tell in poker, a quick unconscious movement that revealed her inner feelings but then they became conscious to her and she stopped them. Or maybe I just imagined the whole thing.

Anyway It would have been good if I could have given her a hug to see if she was open to it but I get frozen by my negative beliefs. Can anyone help?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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woogalie

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All you had to do/say is something like this, "Hey It was nice seeing you today, but I gotta run, call me..." Then whip out a big confident smile and then you grab her, hug the sh!t out of her, turn around and strut off like a badass.

Dont over analyze the situation, and she aint gonna think your a creep for hugging her good bye. Especially if this girl has an interest in you, which you should know.

Has this girl shown or given you any clues that she likes you besides the little hug thing, because half the battle is finding out if they are interested. And if you can spot these subtle clues that their interested it will give you more confidence and make it easier to do the whole kino thing.

Good luck Catnip
 

Obsidian

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Pick a mediocre-looking girl for practice, and just do it. It will be scary for you at first, but you just have to jump into the water. At fastseduction.com, one of their tips is to "become a more tactile person." That is, get in the habit of touching people on the arm (or where-ever) when you are talking to them; do it with guys, too. Make touchiness a part of your personality.

If you have a willing girl who is isolated, it's hard to really go overboard with kino. You still may go overboard when you're still learning, but you'll get the hang of it quickly. Kino is one of the fundamental and elementary seduction techniques.

read the first few steps of this guide:
http://www.directnaturalgame.com/Techniques/kino-escalation-ladder.html

Start small; pick a girl who is maybe a 6 (that is, not super, but do-able), and just KINO HER. NOW.
 

Interceptor

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One of the easiest places is a woman's forearm.
If you can, try to lightly touch her inner forearm in a soft, sensual way.
If she's sitting next to you, and she's crosslegged with her legs facing you, you have access to her thighs and knee, use those too.
Remember, women will usually give you the Kino "level" signals.
Meaning, if she's touching you, that means YOU have the "Green Light" to TOUCH HER. Don't be a pvssy. Touching girls is nice.
If you make a C+F comment, she may usually playfully hit you . This is her way of kinoing. Use it, she's letting you know.
 
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