Help with girl w/bf

[Stradamo]

Any tips for a girl with bf. I have a long time gf and she has a long time bf. I'm 28 and she's 23. I work with this girl and I have it bad for her. I know that's not ideal and I know many of you will give the advice that I should back off and give up. I'm not looking for that though, I'm looking for advice on closing the deal. I like the girl, but I would never leave my girlfriend. I just want to hook up with this girl, ideally on the regular for a short time period. I am pretty sure she is into me to some degree(though she might not know it 100%) and I'm very sure that she needs to get ****ed. She loves her bf, but he is the only guy she ever had sex with and she mentioned to someone else that she doesn't want that to be the case if/when she marries him. She also mentioned that he doesn't tell her she is beautiful and doesn't **** her much if ever any more. I have seen him act like a **** towards her on multiple occasions.

I feel like I have laid a pretty good groundwork, following most of the tips given on sosuave. My problem is closing the deal. I feel I must walk a fine line, as we are friends to some degree and we work together. I can't have it be weird and I can't having everyone else at my workplace knowing what's up. I know the basic level of desire is there on her part, but not sure that she has it in her to go through with it.

She's pretty, but probably a 7.5 or so. Not very confident in her looks, definitely more the type to compartmentalize and suppress sexual feelings. Definitely not a prude, though definitely not a giver or open type when it comes to sex either.

Again, I know it's not an ideal situation that a player type would usually pursue, but that aside, I'd like advice on how to do so. Not sure exactly what I'm looking for, but I've exhausted my resources and I'd like to hear what some DonJuans had to say about it. Any advice at all on closing the deal and getting her into bed would be appreciated.

 

[Stradamo]

So really I need help with closing on a particular girl as well as closing on girls I work with, with discretion in mind. If things fall through with this girl, there's a few others I'd like to make a move on,but I can't be rejected and have them tell other people at the job that I, having a gf, made a move on them.

 

[Audiophile]

I really don't know what you expect anyone here to tell you. You already know your problem, you need help closing, because you want to cheat on your girlfriend? Look, if you have a girlfriend, that you have decided for whatever reason to become "exclusive" with, stay that way. Cheating will do you no good.

But you didn't want that advice, you want us to tell you exactly what you want to hear. So, the only way you can get better at closing is to practice. It's kind of difficult seeing as you are in a relationship and all, but really it's the only way to do it. You pretty much want to have your cake and eat it too, are you unhappy with your current relationship? The way you described this original girl you work with seems like she would not be someone who would be readily available to hook up with. Unless she gives you surefire IOIs, I wouldn't try anything.

All of your judgements based on this girl seem from things you've overheard or seen. Just because you've only seen a few occasions of her bf where he happened to mistreat her, doesn't mean that's the entire story.

 

[Audiophile]

*Double Post, my bad.

 

[Stradamo]

Yah I know, I honestly don't know what I want to hear at this point. I just figured if there was anywhere to try, it was hear. My gf and I are pretty open minded when it comes to sex, I'm not worried about that end,but that's not something I'd ever tell the other girl.

You're probably right though, I can't really try anything. I'm not saying her bf mistreats her all the time either, he's a decent guy, but I also know that they have a subpar relationship at best. No doubt there. The thing is, I'm pretty sure she's attracted to me and she has made it pretty know that A). she doesn't get ****ed and B). she doesn't want to only have sex with one guy in her entire life.

 

[foomee]

Alright so you two are colleagues at work, you both are in a relationship, so sounds like you have something in common...sorta...so that's good.
First thing you should do is ask her out. You're friends already, lunch dates are for friends, so no lunch date. You want to make it known that you're interested in her in more than a platonic way. Ask her on an evening date, do something interesting that you think her and her boyfriend have never done. Try to make it an action date. Keep up with the kino and the flirting and at the end of it try to kiss her. You can be like "i won't tell your boyfriend if you don't tell my girlfriend "
So first step is a date, communicate to her that you're interested and then come back for more advice.