"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Help with body language

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i know a few things about good body language, for example, standing up straight with your shoulders back, not fidgeting etc. but i was wondering if anyone knew of any websites where they'd show other techniques, more detailed stuff.

i think this is my biggest problem when it comes to communicating. other people can see im not confident, it shows, i talk quietly, and stutter my words.

i really need help with this part of my game, i want to be able to talk/act confidently and keep peoples attention.

any help/tips/advice.. please share

randall
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Believe in what you say. You notice that when people really do feel strongly about something they convey attractive body language and audible tones. Make it a point to always look people in the eye when you talk.
 
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Most communication is non verbal so it's good you want to improve this. There is a dating ebook called the body language project. It's very good!


Some quick tips:
- Open posture. Don't fold arms or cross legs.
- Head up.
- Hold eye contact
- Have a relaxed expression on your face.
- SMILE!
- Don't fidget or shake your legs or tap your fingers etc

When standing:
- keep feet apart (should width)
- Arms hanging down by sides. Not in pockets.
- Don't lean against bar or wall.
- Back straigth, shoulders back.


It takes no time to learn but with the right mindset it comes naturally.
 
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Yes, the Body Language Project book is very good and geared to the PUA community. If you don't know how to get it, let me know.

There are other good ones as well, such as The Power of Body Language, but it's not geared to this community.
 
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L.A. Tripp said:
Yes, the Body Language Project book is very good and geared to the PUA community. If you don't know how to get it, let me know.

There are other good ones as well, such as The Power of Body Language, but it's not geared to this community.
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The Body Language Project book sounds golden. Is this as good as the Book of Pook? I usually dont read/follow books too seriously but if it is as good as it sounds I am interested. :)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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CosMoenTropic said:
The Body Language Project book sounds golden. Is this as good as the Book of Pook? I usually dont read/follow books too seriously but if it is as good as it sounds I am interested. :)
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I think it was one of the best books I ever bought (15dollar ebook) and I was familiar with some aspects of body language. BL is something that everybody communicates and it's easy to change its just about making good BL a habit.


The book of pook is a different type of pook but also well worth reading.
 
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