"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Help! Situation with older chick

Naughtyboy

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Hi guys

A few months back I joined a new company. As a par of my new job, I have to interact with a HB 9, let's call her M. M is 29, 4 years older than me and is living with her boyfriend of many years

When I first met M, she was quite reserved and formal. After a bunch of neg hits about her being too old for me, she loosened up. Now she's very giggly and girly when I'm around. She wears tight outfits, and a few blouse buttons automatically unbutton when I'm around :D She always gives me nice views of her cleavage by bending down :eek: She bombards me with questions about my personal life every time I see her, wants to know if i have a gf...what i do on weekends etc etc Also laughs like crazy at the jokes I crack, even the dumb ones. All classical signs of high interest

On the other hand she has a long term BF. She used to mention him earlier, but almost never brings him up nowadays. The few times she does, she complains about him. I asked for her number and got it very easily, but when I offered to cook dinner for her she declined politely.

Now the question is how should I proceed further? How do you guys see this situation? Is she just being an AW or do I have a chance at scoring her? On the whole I'm quite flattered that a Petra Nemcova lookalike is paying me so much attention
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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j0n024

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Yes dont ruin her life....lol when she is throwing her self to you. I say just kino and escalate until you know what you want to do with her, if you wanna fvck her then just keep escalating till you have her at your place if you just wanna be friends ask her stupid questions it's your choice good luck.
 

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Things are a lot bigger than just sex. She could have kids, and she lives with someone. ****ing her could make you have a bear ready to pounce on you at the office or a lunatic with a gun. Plus she lives with this man , they have alot of thier money tied together so if thier is a problem and they split somebody is moving back with thier momma!...And imagine doing that in your thirtys a mans ego is too big for that...this whole situation is unpredictable and dangerous I say don't **** a girl that lives with a guy. :yes: just my opinion
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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trojanman88 said:
Things are a lot bigger than just sex. She could have kids, and she lives with someone. ****ing her could make you have a bear ready to pounce on you at the office or a lunatic with a gun. Plus she lives with this man , they have alot of thier money tied together so if thier is a problem and they split somebody is moving back with thier momma!...And imagine doing that in your thirtys a mans ego is too big for that...this whole situation is unpredictable and dangerous I say don't **** a girl that lives with a guy. :yes: just my opinion
Nicely put! Hi-5!

F**king a girl who lives with her bf? :nono:

You could get shot at the next day or worse. :trouble: Find somebody who isn't living under these conditions.
 

Naughtyboy

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Thanks for all the responses guys

j0n024 said:
Yes dont ruin her life....lol when she is throwing her self to you.
Well thats what I am not sure about. Is she interested in me or not? If she is, is she just being an attention wh0re? Bcos she's giving all classical signals of high interest, at the same time she has a LTR with a BF.
She doesnt have kids, and thinks her BF is kind of dumb
 

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Consider also that she may just be flirty and have no other plans for you for now. You are probably someone she thinks she can fck if things go bad in home.

Also, isn't that excatly how djs (assuming she would be a he) would behave even if they would live with a gf, and would have no intention leaving her.

You asked her whetever you can cook for her or not. You got rejected, thats as far as you should go for now imo. Just respond to flirt but don't approach till she makes clear that her bf is not a factor anymore. Unless you like messing around with girls in relationships in which case I can't help. :<
 

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Dude, this is how life is. Older women, just want the fantasy of themselves with a younger guy. That is all. Like you said, she already has a bf, she just likes teases you and enjoying the fantasy associated with it. Don't push it further. A chick is never a good reason to lose your job.
 
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