"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Help me with my Tinder game [short].

Shag&Brag

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Now, what I have found out, the most effective way to starta a conversation on Tinder in my coutry is:

Me: Elizabeth!

She: Yes?!

Me: I have bad news...

She: :O

Me:
Better sit down...

She: Ok, I'm sitting.

Me: All the fun loving and creative *input country* guys have divided into two groups.
Me: Tonight is the night, we will settle once and for all, who is right!
Me: Are you ready to help?

She: I was born ready!
She: How can I help?

Me:
Motorcycles or convertables? Why?
Me: Go!
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and, yadda, yadda, yadda

I think it is pretty good, but gets boring after you start to spamm. And because Tinder is meant to be fun, I was woundering, what other fun/creative ways, you guys, could reccomend me to continiue the conversation after I have a bad news part. :)

For all the answers, thanks in advance!
CHEERS!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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this is weak.
 

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Change your "Bad News" opening. It relies too much on a back and forth conversation that ultimately leads to an irrelevant question (in regards to actually meeting the chick) asked by you that will only be effective at wasting both of yours time.

You have two options; have a generic opening message that you send to everyone, or construct a unique opening line based on what you've seen in the girls pictures and bio that will draw her attention. Either way, your goal is to stand out.

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Regardless of what option you choose, you'll be following this rough outline:

1) Interesting opening line that stands out and catches her attention.

2a) If she shows interest, ask her out and plan a date within the next couple of messages. She's swiping new guys every day, the longer you wait to ask her out the more prospects she has to choose from, and the further down the "to-do" list you'll be placed. Don't bore her with conversation that doesn't escalate.

2b) If she shows little to no initial interest at all, gauge her interest level again by how she responds in her next two messages. If she begins to open up, good, move back to 2a above. If she doesn't, NEXT her and remove her from your matches. No point wasting each other's time. If she isn't interested after the first few messages, she never will be.

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The end result with each girl will either be a date or removing her from your matches. This shouldn't take more than a few messages from her to figure out. Remember, she has no obligation to talk exclusively to you, she's always swiping new guys and receiving messages everyday. Stand out, and cut to the chase.
 
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