Help me read this situation

[AspiringDJ]

hi,
i was on a blind date with this attractive blonde 7 to 7.5 from a dating agency. we were set up at a restaurant , when i walked in she was already there and gave me like really big smiles [ hypersmiling not genuine at all] i gave back poilte smile and and as we walked in to the tables area i kinda walked away a bit from her and looked at the menu ignoring her to test her true interest level. i can tell that her ego was pricked big time. so in 10 minutes time she is talking about whites and asking questions like are there whites in my home country[i am born and raised india], have i dated whites thru agency and how did that go? definitely in a demeaning way. i had no idea how to respond to this so i played dumb. as conversation went she was giving vibes of attraction and i asked her home phone number she gave it to me and a pen torch light with it [ bribing me in exchange for the insult i guess] she insisted on giving me a ride back to my place and at the end asked me to give her a call.[ yeah right]
now before i ask my question let me tell what i read in the situation. i think i failed her physical attraction test ...however my act of aloofness and challenge forces her to have me once atleast. because she sees that i am not afraid of losing her , and to protect herself from getting hurt she uses her most disrespectful verbal indication at me. since interest level is built on respect , if i date her she can never be hurt by me and she will be able to still satisfy her need to respond to my challenge behaviour. it's a lose-lose situation for me. i was told that she had a black bf earlier, the reason she choses colored people is i think she has low self esteem and also since she doesnt respect these guys deeply she can never be hurt by them . whereas with a white guy she will be hurt. i hope u guys get what i mean.
now my question is how do i deal with situtations like this when the chick uses race card against me?
what are your comments about the girl, her interest level etc.,
also i think this girl is really trailer trash material to talk like that?
i appreciate your info guys,
aspiring dj

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

A lot of times 'white trash' women know that their own white brethen (male counterparts) have rejected them for one reason or another, so they gravitate moreso to others who have been rejected by the the so-called mainstream 'white' society, and they receive greater acceptance and approval from this population that shares her same fate.

Maybe she talked 'race' with you because she was being honest that it is a factor in a dating situation. Was this a blind date? Did she know you were Indian before the date? Did you know her before? Did she seem displeased or shocked when she saw you?

 

[AspiringDJ]

hi,
no i dont think she talked race to be honest with me at all. it was a baltant attempt to make a difference in color between me and her and not in a good way. i really regret that experience with her my gut never lies. it was blind date.i didnt know her before. she knew i was indian, in fact her last boyfriend was black. i think ur right on spot on ur comment why these women chose colored ppl. she seemed exuberant when she saw me. now i am no brad pitt so it was total bull ****. any comments would be appreciated
aspiringdj

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Why are you selling yourself short and making assumptions that she doesn't like you. Is this your gut feeling? Guts are usualy right Are you willing to make another attempt and get shot down to see if u r right, or would you rather not even persue?
Do you think she was feigning interst?

 

[AspiringDJ]

yes my first instinct was that there is something wrong with the picture. and my best bet is she is responding to my challenge/ and not to me per se.. and the main thing i dont want to be with someone like her. she killed my interest level.
i am now interested in learning how to banter and respond to race remarks.
aspiringdj