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nestea16

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I feel like my life right now has no meaning. All i do right now is get stoned and kind of veg around on my computer and seldomly do my hmwk. I look at some people and they are doing productive things and feel good because of them. I need some new hobbies in my life or just things to do that can kind of take me out of this loop. Is anyone in the same position as me?

Anyone have any advice for me?
 

coldcoal

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Anyone have any advice for me?

Yes. Asking for advice on this suject matter is your problem. This is something you should be able to help yourself resolve. If you can't decide what you might like, what on earth makes you think we can? Become decisive.
 

CyranoDeBergerac

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1) Identify what's holding you back. We each have are own hurdles to jump and the first step to fighting inertia is realizing that only a temporary state of being and working actively to change it. Loosely translated you need to lose the pot and whatever other bad habits or attitudes that aren't moving you forward. Stagnation is your enemy. Fight it when you see it.


2)(a) Figure out what you like to do and are good at.

Hobbies, talents, team sports. If that means building rocking chairs or knitting doilies, do it. The easiest way to become productive is simply to do or make something. Bonus, if you're still not inclined to do your homework, it becomes all that more urgent that you hone up on any other marketable job skills you may possess. :D

b) Work it till you make something of it.

Work your talent until it is a finely developed artform. Become the Rembrandt of rocking chairs, the Donatello of Doilies. Whatever you do, be the best you can be and work to be better. Live in the moment. Know where you are right now and how far you've come and love yourself for it. But invest your pride into where you're going from here.


3) Get in the habit of not making any excuses. If you or your loved ones aren't sick or dead at the moment and direly needing your attention elsewhere, there is no excuse for not working ardently towards your goals.


4) Find what gets your fire going and set it ablaze. Take pleasure in the warmth of your successes and see your failures for what they are; kindling.

(a) Every once in a while, while climbing a mountain, it becomes necessary to stop and admire the scenery, or else, why the fvck are you climbing the mountain? The simple pride of being able to look at your handiwork and say," I did this." can be the greatest motivation to keep going.


(b) Edison had to try literally thousands of different fillaments before he satisfactorily produced a light-bulb. He worked on it day and night, and the simple fact that he was working on a lightbulb by candlelight or kerosene probably make his quest all the more urgent. Use your current circumstances to keep you motivated when you start to lag.

5) Failure is not an option, No is not an answer, and wines are for cheese and French people. (Sorry, couldn't resist ;) I'm still tickled pink about that whole Maginot line thing...)



I know all this seems harsh, hard-core, and maybe even a smidge like an over-reaction. I assure you its not. Remember, you are fighting a war here with yourself. Its simply too easy to take the easy road to no where. (Pook would call this the Dionesian path) If you've decided to take the high road from now on you'll have to fight your own inertia. It only gets easier once you've gotten some momentum going.

Now turn off your computer, look in your mirror, then go outside and take a deep breath because the world is yours for the taking.

Best of luck in life and love Brother...

-CyranoDeBergerac
 

Slickster

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Lay off the weed!!!

Smoking pot can really kill your motivation.

I enjoy smoking a gagger from time to time but moderation is important.

How many times do you blaze up and get the urge to do something new or do something that improves yourself as a person?

Actually it might happen but it only lasts for about 20 minutes until you get distracted by something else. :)

Lay off the weed a bit and you'll be fine.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Zeus

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Look here, you are depressed cause u think to damn much, and little action. Try more Action, less thinking and you will be a new man.
 
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