How do you let go and stop caring about other people, and what they think of you.
I can't seem to break free. I know I shouldn't care, and now and again it dawns on me when I find myself caring what random people on the street think of me, or some other random person that I shouldn't give two ****s about.
I just dont know what to do. Im redicilousy insecure. I used to be overweight, 6'0 215, and that was my scapegoat for not talking to girls and stuff.
Now im down to 160, and I enjoy looking at myself in the mirror, im not ugly, i don't have anything wrong with me. I just don't know what to do.
When im in my college classes, I talk to a few people, make small talk. Ive met new people this year. I have friends, quite a few, and im working on making more. Its just that I dont have any friends that are girls. None of my friends have any girlfriends either, so I just never meet any new women. Nor do they go out and try to meet them usually, so I don't get any help.
I'm real easy to get along with, I can make people laugh, I've had some recent success with girls, them showing interest in me. But whenever I talk to girls, especially sober, Im always thinking about what shes gonna think etc, and it ruins my game. If I'm just being myself having a good time (not caring), i can have success with girls. Enough girls have given little hints of interest to know that i could have success, if I could just put all the pieces together.
I think one of my sticking points is the fact that ive never taken a girl from meeting her, then all the way to sex. Im not a virgin, but the only girl i've had sex with i met one summer in HS, (like 3 years ago), then i stopped talking to her for a long ass time, and then i some how managed to get her to do me. (more like i called her wasted and said if she was here, i would **** her brains out, so she ended up driving up like the next day, or something like that, I don't remember the exact logisitics.)
But the fact of the matter is, I have no experience taking a girl from just meeting her, through the different stages of seduction, and then laying her. I have no previous experience to go off of really, and it creeps into my head when ever Im talking to girls.
But when ever it comes down to it, I think to much about what im supposed to say, or what this person is gonna think of me if they hear me say it to this person, and I just want that to go away. I want to beable to say anything, as stupid, gay, dumb, moronic, out of line ect, and just not give a **** what people think.
Sorry if its all jumbled, already started pregaming, and this is my first post asking for help, been lurking for like a year now, but lurking isn't helping me fast enough. Ive got less then two years left of college now, and ive yet to meet and form a relationship with a single girl. Sad eh.
I can't seem to break free. I know I shouldn't care, and now and again it dawns on me when I find myself caring what random people on the street think of me, or some other random person that I shouldn't give two ****s about.
I just dont know what to do. Im redicilousy insecure. I used to be overweight, 6'0 215, and that was my scapegoat for not talking to girls and stuff.
Now im down to 160, and I enjoy looking at myself in the mirror, im not ugly, i don't have anything wrong with me. I just don't know what to do.
When im in my college classes, I talk to a few people, make small talk. Ive met new people this year. I have friends, quite a few, and im working on making more. Its just that I dont have any friends that are girls. None of my friends have any girlfriends either, so I just never meet any new women. Nor do they go out and try to meet them usually, so I don't get any help.
I'm real easy to get along with, I can make people laugh, I've had some recent success with girls, them showing interest in me. But whenever I talk to girls, especially sober, Im always thinking about what shes gonna think etc, and it ruins my game. If I'm just being myself having a good time (not caring), i can have success with girls. Enough girls have given little hints of interest to know that i could have success, if I could just put all the pieces together.
I think one of my sticking points is the fact that ive never taken a girl from meeting her, then all the way to sex. Im not a virgin, but the only girl i've had sex with i met one summer in HS, (like 3 years ago), then i stopped talking to her for a long ass time, and then i some how managed to get her to do me. (more like i called her wasted and said if she was here, i would **** her brains out, so she ended up driving up like the next day, or something like that, I don't remember the exact logisitics.)
But the fact of the matter is, I have no experience taking a girl from just meeting her, through the different stages of seduction, and then laying her. I have no previous experience to go off of really, and it creeps into my head when ever Im talking to girls.
But when ever it comes down to it, I think to much about what im supposed to say, or what this person is gonna think of me if they hear me say it to this person, and I just want that to go away. I want to beable to say anything, as stupid, gay, dumb, moronic, out of line ect, and just not give a **** what people think.
Sorry if its all jumbled, already started pregaming, and this is my first post asking for help, been lurking for like a year now, but lurking isn't helping me fast enough. Ive got less then two years left of college now, and ive yet to meet and form a relationship with a single girl. Sad eh.