Help I need specific advice.

[Vanderdonck]

I’m 56. Went on a 1st date Friday night with a 52 year old lady. Today (Sunday). I text her: Hi Mary, I enjoyed our date very much. I would like to see you again. How about this week? I know I’m free Tuesday & Thursday.

she replies: Hi John! I enjoyed our date as well- I appreciated your patience with me Rough start getting there

I think it’s a **** test. She’s interested in a 2nd date. But my guess is she doesn’t like the vagueness in my text. She wants a day and a specific plan. I’m cool with doing that but I don’t want to fail her test either. I need a response that’s a compromise. I’m thinking of taking Tuesday out as an option and making a solid plan for Thursday. But honestly, this is new one for me. I’ve never had a woman do that to me. How would you guys respond ?

Unlike a lot of others, I don't think your texting necessarily sunk you, though you might have waited another day and then chosen one specific night (Thursday) to make plans, yes or no.

Anyway my guess is her interest level was baked in already, from the date itself. About which you know more than us. This is where your reading of women may need honing. It could have felt friendly and light to you but boring to her. Obviously go for a 2nd if you feel it, but her mind was probably made up by Sunday.

Also guessing based on your verbiage here (needing, not wanting to fail a test, etc.) is that your vibe may be genial but a tad eager and perhaps too nice.

 

[The Diver]

I’m 56. Went on a 1st date Friday night with a 52 year old lady. Today (Sunday). I text her: Hi Mary, I enjoyed our date very much. I would like to see you again. How about this week? I know I’m free Tuesday & Thursday.
she replies: Hi John! I enjoyed our date as well- I appreciated your patience with me Rough start getting there
I think it’s a **** test. She’s interested in a 2nd date. But my guess is she doesn’t like the vagueness in my text. She wants a day and a specific plan. I’m cool with doing that but I don’t want to fail her test either. I need a response that’s a compromise. I’m thinking of taking Tuesday out as an option and making a solid plan for Thursday. But honestly, this is new one for me. I’ve never had a woman do that to me. How would you guys respond ?

My go about Inviting to date is simple:
After a quick chat (mostly face to face, I'm not doing online anymore) I say for example: how about a drink Tuesday 7 pm at XYZ ?.
If she's interested she'll free her schedule for you.
If she can't free her schedule and she's interested she'll offer a different day.
If she's not taking you for the invite or rescheduling a different day, she's not interested - move on. Simple.

My correct date said she was astonishing I asked her for a date in 3 minutes flat, she accepted, and we have dated a few times since then.
She said she liked me go for it without beating about the bush- Yes-Yes, No-No. Done.