"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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its been quite a while since I have posted ,

lately I have been hitting the gym and dropping some pounds, getting in shape , I dramatically cut back on drinking beer, I am doing good at my job ,I just bought a new truck (well used but its pretty brand new ) .

I have done all these changes in my life without the help of anyone .

but when I tell people about them I get , negative feedback .

the people that knew me , say the miss the old me ...

when I was overweight , had a ****ty car , had no job .

I answer back with , I needed a a change , but they think I am being stupid .

I am also dealing with a bad rejection ,I picked up this girl I fell deeply for her and she played me . so I blew her off, it's been a few weeks close to a month . what's ticking me off is that she is talking about me to other people as if It was all my fault and I blew it , I guesses she knew some peeps , that I happen to know and I had no idea. until now .

I am trying to get out of this downward emotional spiral , when everything else seems to go good , something bad starts to happen .

some encouraging words could really help me out ,

I also focused too much on trying to find a gf , since all my friends have one , I'm just the only single guy , who happens to have his S*it straight . while everybody else , is banging and having kids .

maybe that last bit has all my frustrations ,anything helps right now .
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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decadentdestruction said:
but when I tell people about them I get , negative feedback .
the people that knew me , say the miss the old me ...
when I was overweight , had a ****ty car , had no job .
I answer back with , I needed a a change , but they think I am being stupid.
Most people are complacent. Your friends are probably complacent, and have settled for being who they are, not improving themselves. That might be jealous, or it might just be something for them to say.

I am also dealing with a bad rejection ,I picked up this girl I fell deeply for her and she played me . so I blew her off, it's been a few weeks close to a month . what's ticking me off is that she is talking about me to other people as if It was all my fault and I blew it , I guesses she knew some peeps , that I happen to know and I had no idea. until now .
Forget about her and date more women. Dating other women will stop you "falling for" them, and it'll show people you're an attractive ladies' man.

I also focused too much on trying to find a gf , since all my friends have one , I'm just the only single guy , who happens to have his S*it straight . while everybody else , is banging and having kids .
Don't look for a girlfriend, just date women and see where things go. Trying too hard to get something will drive it away.
 

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You say all your friends have girlfriends, but are they quality women? Probably not. Dont let anyonbe bring you down, if you have a goal, dont let anyone get in your way. More likely than not all your friends envy you and probably wanna be where you are.

As for the girl you dated, women do that. Women can never put theree hand up and take the blame when they are in the wrong. Why dont you try dating someone outside of your normal circle of friends.

You look good, got a good job, decent wheels and you seem like a peoples person, the world is yours, go out and embrace it, and if you lose some friends along the way, you will make new ones too. Enjoy life, you only live once!
 

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It's hard to improve yourself. The fact you were able to muster up the willpower and determination to do so, and actually have done so, is commendable and an admiring personal quality.

So naturally, your friends are going to be jealous and wish they were you. Don't let them bring you down. But don't talk about your improvements to them so much either... No one likes to hear about someone elses better fortune, to be honest... And if you don't mention it it's unlikely they will either.

Whoever mentions it at that point is just being a d*ck.
 
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thanks for the tips , I wont mention my achievements no more , I never thought this girl was in my inner circle of friends , and the girls my friends are with , they are all controlling .

thanks for the words guys .

it took guts to write the way I felt on this thread. thanks for the feedback .

I wish you all success and good fortune .
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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