"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok first, hello all, i'm a total newbie at all this, but i've decided i've had it with sitting in on weekends alone for the rest of my life...

I don't like clubs to meet people cause they seem really shallow and noisy and expensive and just all round ****...

So i wanna get to meeting people out and about in the day but i don't get how you can just go up to someone and get their number:confused:

Surely if you just walked up to someone on the street and started talking to them they'd be like "uhhh... who are you?"

So how do i not look like some creepy weirdo... :confused:

also say if you are out and about in town how come girls always make the situation awkward? i've read it's like a test to get rid of losers or something?!

respect to the pros sharing the knowledge :yes: :yes:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JD87 said:
Ok first, hello all, i'm a total newbie at all this, but i've decided i've had it with sitting in on weekends alone for the rest of my life...

I don't like clubs to meet people cause they seem really shallow and noisy and expensive and just all round ****...

So i wanna get to meeting people out and about in the day but i don't get how you can just go up to someone and get their number:confused:

Surely if you just walked up to someone on the street and started talking to them they'd be like "uhhh... who are you?"

So how do i not look like some creepy weirdo... :confused:

also say if you are out and about in town how come girls always make the situation awkward? i've read it's like a test to get rid of losers or something?!

respect to the pros sharing the knowledge :yes: :yes:
1. As far as clubs go, that's your own personal preference. However in my experience I've learned dudes that avoid clubs do it not because they don't like it, but because they are intimidated by all the competition. I hope you know where you stand on that.

2. How can you go up to someone and get their number? You just do.

3. If you think you're going to look creepy, you will. If you think you look like a greek god, you'll look like a greek god.

4. That whole mentality of believing girls don't want to be approached by random men is a huge myth. The #1 thing on many a woman's agenda is to meet new men. It's the ones who drop this myth and approach without fear who reap the benefits (not many).

5. Yes, some women will act awkward when you approach them. This is their anti-slut defense in which they're trying to project 'i'm not a slvt, so I'm not going to hit it off with you right away'. All it is is a defense. It's not their true state of mind. Their true state of mind wants you to rip that sh!t down and tell them that they need something good in their life and that's you.

welcome to the boards.
 

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Haha! thanks for the response and the warm welcome, no.5 made me laugh out loud :D

I can see where your coming from with the club thing, maybe i will become better at clubs in time, but it's a whole messy combination of things that put me off them, although i wont deny that i feel awkward in clubs...

I'll make an effort to talk to a random person i see out and about and let you know how it goes :D
 

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i'm the type of person that spends mad loot when i go out to clubs. i gotta buy my own drinks and my bois drinks and try to make sure everyones having fun if i'm having fun. i'll only spend like a few hours 2-3 at the club and i'll come home $200-400 lighter.
 

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AAAgent said:
i'm the type of person that spends mad loot when i go out to clubs. i gotta buy my own drinks and my bois drinks and try to make sure everyones having fun if i'm having fun. i'll only spend like a few hours 2-3 at the club and i'll come home $200-400 lighter.
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I spend alot of time in clubs (i'm a dance music producer/DJ) but those clubs are different to the ones you go to to 'woo' the ladies haha, for starters everyones pilled off their tits and not looking for sex just a good time kinda what i ment earlier about clubs being really shallow, just this 'designated courting area' and the music in them always makes me feel awkward cause i dont really like it but gotta force myself to dance to it to kinda fake having a good time. After i'm smashed i don't really care but its difficult for me to see the point in going out then paying to get wasted to have a good time when i love staying in and just working on tracks for free...

but i guess thats why i been single all my life haha
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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