health amount of sex?

[Heretolearn]

Hey team,

Know it varies etc but what is a healthy/realistic amount/expectation for sex eg.

depends on circumstances especially amount of time spent together etc etc

a) single: once a month???

b) honeymoon phase/going out: 5-6 times a week

c) longer relationship/marriage: 1-2 a week

d) Kids: once a month?

What about dating. Do you expect a ratio of 100% (i.e sex every time you catch up?)

Thread spurred by a friend of mine's situation who is only getting sex once or twice a week in his 5 month relationship despite bringing it up. The girl just says he is selfish lol. I told him to get out because if she is using this as a tool/weapon right now, imagine if they got married....................

 

[NewMan]

I think it's situational dependent.

As long as your woman is not using it as bargining chip, your all good. If your not getting it as much as you need to remain satisfied, then you probably need to move on.

 

[Scaramouche]

Well how much Sex are you happy with? The more sexual a being you are,the more difficult to compromise,if you are at the needier end of the Bell Curve I believe it is impossible.It is not just quantity but quality too,maybe it would be appropriate at this juncture to ask yourself just how often do I want it?and keep in your head space a shopping list of the activities you want this hypothetical lover to indulge in,most women have much less appetite than we do,their willingness to oblige you is very much an indicator as to how well you will relate on a lot of other things too,so just keep trying the bread from every oven until you find one you like......Having said that if you find a Lady who in general satisfies you,be prepared to compromise on other aspects of her persona....if things are right in bed,most problems can be sorted out....A while ago Latino Man contributed an excellent thread on deal breakers, maybe you should read it...If you are looking for a long term relationship,establish your criteria right now,write down the most critically important points,then you are prepared to subtly vet any potential Soul mates,remember unattached Ladies who are good in bed are rare birds indeed,and sadly many of them are damaged goods,back on the shelf for good reason,believe me one of lifes bitterest pills is finding your sexual soul mate after a lot of searching,only to find she is a flawed diamond.