"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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HB8 Flakey or Not: You decide

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So. I've read the bible, etc.. recently divorced.

Meet a friend of a coworker at a bar. Hit it off, kino, big signs of interest. After an hour, leave together. Go for a walk, kiss, back to my place. Says she's not gonna have sex and shes a virgin. (Know to be untrue now)

I Text her 2 days later. Flirt in a few texts.
Ask her to bowling, says it sounds fun and she'll check schedule
Next night, I text and ask her out specific time.
Says "shoot I never text you back the other day" can't, has church (ash Wednesday)

I say "If you're interested, get back to me. If you're not, I had a good time and wish you the best. Your ball."

No reply

On FB later we talk a minute then I straight out ask if she's interested.
"Yes I would like to hang out sometime I should get my schedule Monday or Tuesday so I can tell you when I'm free then.

Talk a minute and end it.


Now Tuesday night, no word.

Flakey? **** test? Hard to get? Legitimate excuses? No interest.

Next move?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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the_stig

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She doesn't sound very interested and can smell your desperation to top it off. You shouldn't have asked her again the next day if she hadn't gotten back to you.

Cut contact, only let her initiate contact and come to you. That's about all you can do, and I wouldn't hold my breath. Start meeting other girls.
 

udokaibeh

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she said monday or tuesday so wait till wensday night but if she doesnt txt u then somethings up
 

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Sounds fair enough. I wonder where I went wrong. Hard to tell if you're not following me around I guess lol
 

Johnnyventana

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Don't contact her on Wednesday either. Ball is in her court. You already explained that to her. Your words.

Don't F up even more.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mike32ct

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217 said:
So. I've read the bible, etc.. recently divorced.

Meet a friend of a coworker at a bar. Hit it off, kino, big signs of interest. After an hour, leave together. Go for a walk, kiss, back to my place. Says she's not gonna have sex and shes a virgin. (Know to be untrue now)

I Text her 2 days later. Flirt in a few texts.
Ask her to bowling, says it sounds fun and she'll check schedule
Next night, I text and ask her out specific time.
Says "shoot I never text you back the other day" can't, has church (ash Wednesday)

I say "If you're interested, get back to me. If you're not, I had a good time and wish you the best. Your ball."

No reply

On FB later we talk a minute then I straight out ask if she's interested.
"Yes I would like to hang out sometime I should get my schedule Monday or Tuesday so I can tell you when I'm free then.

Talk a minute and end it.


Now Tuesday night, no word.

Flakey? **** test? Hard to get? Legitimate excuses? No interest.

Next move?
It sounds like very low interest level. Just because she fooled around with you one night doesn't mean she is up for more.

Back off and see if she contacts you. Odds are very slim here. I'm sorry man.
 

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Well I appreciate the advice. Sometimes the "slim chances" response is really what a guy needs to hear. Lesson learned right?

Wish I could have learned the lesson on, oh, a 5! But can't go back haha
 

LoneWolf

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Umm, you shouldn't of asked if she was interested. I think that killed it completely. You stuffed it up man. Find someone else. That's a question you leave for the girl!
 
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