Haven't asked for help in a while, cuz i haven't needed it...i need it

[Kevin Matthew]

I haven't been on this site looking for advice in a while, because I haven't needed it. Yesterday something happened, that I'm not sure how to handle, and I could use a little guidance from a more advanced PUA.

After work a friend and i went to a radio station to watch a DJ play some music live over the air. There was a pretty big crowd, and while dancing, a girl and I ended up flirting. Afterwards she comes up to me tells me i'm cute, and she wants me to have her number (this may be a confidence booster to some, but this was the first time something like this happened, and shes gorgeous...i.e. PRESSURE). She asks if I want to grab a drink right then and there, and I oblige. We talk and flirt over a beer, and left on what seemed to be good terms. The things she was saying implied she will be waiting for me to text her, which makes me think that waiting for her to text me isn't a good idea; During our good byes she said "I hope to hear from you."

Now the unanswerable question: WHEN TO TEXT HER?
Do I need to wait? If so, how long? I don't want to mess around

It hasn't even been 24 hours, but I just want to quickly flirt via text, and ask her out for drinks on Thursday...too quick?

 

[Bingo-Player]

wrong thread

 

[Skyline]

Bingo-Player what're you talking about...

Anyway, the rule is 2-3 days no matter her interest level.

 

[sylvester the cat]

^^^ LOL. Bingo's on the wrong thread.

 

[Kailex]

Do NOT text right away. You live in New York (I'm assuming NYC) so you can go out any night.

You did good by getting her number and all that jazz, but you don't want to just seem too eager unless you really don't care that much about the outcome (Which doesn't seem to be the case).

There is no rush, no hurry. Give it a day or two and then shoot her a text.
Being the calm, cool, and collected guy was what got you the girl to talk to you in the first place... don't throw that away by being "Eager texting guy".

 

[Bingo-Player]

haha oh hell wrong thread :cuss:

ignore that post kevin my apologies

 

[SgtSplacker]

Dude, stop thinking this girl is so attracted to you. Women do this to men to see us go crazy for them to boost their ego or get a free drink. DO NOT try to mirror her presumed affections for you, it's a lie.

If I met a random chick at a bar I would not give her any importance in my life at all. I would send her a text in a couple days later with something like "is this the strange woman I met at a bar Saturday night?" try to be funny so she will want to see you later and casually ask her out and try not to give her your Fri and Sat night spots just yet. And be mysterious about your personal life.

I would even lightly shiit test her for giving some random dude at a bar her number.

For the Thursday night thing I would text her that same day for a good time to call her later. Then after a fun chat on the phone ask her what she's doing later.

 

[Greasy Pig]

^^^ Gold.