Powersurgeon
Don Juan
He was a PUA. Is the book just one more case of oneitis? Or is what we are all want for a relationship?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Have you read "The Thruth" by Neil Strauss
- Thread starter Powersurgeon
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I haven't read any of his books, but I would like to see some reviews of this one. I've always perceived him as an extremely effeminate guy, just as a lot of pickup gurus are. I've read some Amazon reviews, but I'd like to see what our own community thinks of it. Yes, I know I could read it myself. I just don't find myself highly motivated to do so.
Powersurgeon
Don Juan
I've watched his videos in youtube. I just can't picture him being a PUG (Pick up guru). He talks too fast, showing insecurity.
taiyuu_otoko
Master Don Juan
I doubt anything Strauss writes is wholly genuine. All of his books were written from the perspective of a journalist, with the end game goal of writing a book. He "does things" not organically but because he knows the experience would make a good anecdotal story for the upcoming book.
Kind of like when I worked at Disneyland long, long ago for the "guest research" department. I had to "cold approach" 500-1000 people a day for demographic surveys. But I was getting paid, so it was easy.
You'd have to be a sociopath to cold approach that many people a day just for the "experience."
I don't suspect "cold approaching" is any different than those goofs who make YouTube videos interviewing people on the street. How they behave while "working" is completely different than they behave when not "working."
I suspect all of Strauss' "experiences" while doing "research" for The Game and The Truth were done from that perspective, while "working" for a goal, rather than self fulfillment.
Kind of like those "mystery" customers who visit hotels, restaurants etc, just to write reviews. Strauss is like a "mystery citizen" pretending to live a "normal life" just so he can write a book about it.
Kind of like when I worked at Disneyland long, long ago for the "guest research" department. I had to "cold approach" 500-1000 people a day for demographic surveys. But I was getting paid, so it was easy.
You'd have to be a sociopath to cold approach that many people a day just for the "experience."
I don't suspect "cold approaching" is any different than those goofs who make YouTube videos interviewing people on the street. How they behave while "working" is completely different than they behave when not "working."
I suspect all of Strauss' "experiences" while doing "research" for The Game and The Truth were done from that perspective, while "working" for a goal, rather than self fulfillment.
Kind of like those "mystery" customers who visit hotels, restaurants etc, just to write reviews. Strauss is like a "mystery citizen" pretending to live a "normal life" just so he can write a book about it.
sodbuster
Master Don Juan
"the Game" is a good beginners book, I had my son read it when He was 14. You can get all it has to say online with different forums.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.