"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Have a date tonight - Feeling guilty about it

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To make a long story short:

Ive been still seeing my ex-gf a lot. Shes still doing so much for me, spend 300 bux on my birthday, helping my brother go to a good college, all around a good person overall. But where not "exclusively" seeing each other. Like i said i have a date tonight but feeling guilty about it. Which is never me. Im the type of person who has 2-3 girls over a week. Just ****ed a 47 year old 3 days ago, had the ex over the night after. But something about last night and how much she wanted to help my brother just clicked how much she cares about me, and the effort she put in for my birthday yesterday. Stumped on what to do here??
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Go on the date and have a good time. Just like your saying it seems like your ex really cares for you. the fact that she is helping your brother seems like she wants to get along well with your family. It seems like she is really trying to make it work. After you go on the date try to tone it down with the girls. Try not to have girls over if you could help it. Try to ask yourself this questions.Do you want an exclusive relationship with this ex gf? How does she feel about it? Talk it over with her. There is no hurt in trying. If you really love her try to go out with her more. Just for coffee sit and talk. Help her out like she has helped your brother. There is no reason why it can't work. I don't know what happened in the past nor is it my business but if seems like she is a great girl. I hope it works out for you the way you want it too. Good luck and keep me updated.
 
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Espi said:
I really do think that you're kind of at a crossroads between AFC and alpha-like mentality. Perhaps you want to cling to the comfort and familiarity of societal acceptance that comes along with embracing the inner-nice-guy, faithful romantic.

I invite you to keep spinning the plates. Keep meeting more women. Your confidence seems high right now because you have women at your disposal. Don't lie or induce your ex in any way, but if she offers gifts, allow your ex to keep trying to buy her way into your heart, for you're in a very powerful position now, and you might regret it if you allow society's guilt to hold you back.
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You hit the nail on the head bro. Thanks for the advice both of you, keep you guys updated.
 
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