"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Has anyone been in this situation?

WeaponOfWar

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So this will be a bit long. I've been dating this girl for a year and a half now and I really love her. In the most serious way possible.

My first girlfriend was more similar to me, she wasn't as good looking only she had a bigger chest. she was a bit of a nutcase and it ended really bad and i suffered a lot. With my current one we are different people, but in a good way, the kind of couple that complements each other. we learn from each other, we grow together. Even though at first it was a bit strange now we are extremely close. I’m always there for her and she’s always there for me.

She is really pretty and has a hot body, definitely hotter than my ex but she has small breasts, they are really nice, but I'm the kind of guy that's attracted to bigger ones. It doesn't bother me too much, sex life is great. but when i see women on the street with bigger ones I sometimes glance at them or so and it makes me feel really bad of myself and towards her. It's not a shallow thing, since i've been small big ones were always a turn on for me. Hers are really nice, but don't turn me on that much since they aren't that big. Mostly it's ok, but sometimes as I said it makes me feel bad towards her when other women walk by and catch my attention with a big cleavage, like it's unfair that i like bigger ones towards her.

I'm not a shallow guy, I love her and am grateful for everything she has to offer and wouldn't give her up for anything. This isn't one of those things that "you should break up because she doesnt..etc". Things are really serious between us and they are going great.

Has anyone been in this situation? When uncontrollably there's something that they like but the woman they love doesn't have and sometimes bothers you? How do you deal with that. I'm not letting this affect our relationship, it's only something that bothers me sometimes. I’m trying just to ignore these things as much as I can and actually not look around if that makes sense.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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