Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Handshake, kiss or Hug?

DJ4Life

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I just have a simple question, how do you know if you are suppose to goodbye kiss, handshake, or hug after you met a girl in a club and she's about to leave?

And speaking of handshakes, i know that a handshake with a guy should be firm. Not so hard as to break his bones to represent hostility, but firm as to show your confidence and sincerety. What about to girls delicate hands? Are you meant to do a firm or soft handshake?

Thanks.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Handshaking girls: you don't grab their whole palm. Only taker her fingers between your own and your thumb, then tilt your wrist down. Just don't be too gay about it.

Uhm... well, just read the signs. It's all over the place. I wouldn't go for kiss, though, unless you already had one earlier. A hug: maybe... if you want to come off as very friendly. Don't do this if you didn't build rapport. A kiss for if you had some physical fun in the club... and a hug if you got something going verbally.

Also: whoever said you have to make a scenic exit? Just tell her you're going, get her number. Presto.
 

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DJ4Life said:
I just have a simple question, how do you know if you are suppose to goodbye kiss, handshake, or hug after you met a girl in a club and she's about to leave?

And speaking of handshakes, i know that a handshake with a guy should be firm. Not so hard as to break his bones to represent hostility, but firm as to show your confidence and sincerety. What about to girls delicate hands? Are you meant to do a firm or soft handshake?

Thanks.
The underlying principle is always you do what YOU decide you want to, whatever the situation. That's what being a leader and an alpha male is about, you don't look to other people to define what you should do. That said, I understand your question - here is some more detail on what's likely to further your goals:

Unless it's a business situation don't handshake chicks. In that case they usually give crap handshakes anyway, and their hand collapses. ;)

Chicks love hugs, be dominant and confident in initiating it and don't be timid, squeeze her firmly (but not in a pervy, groping way). You can hug any chick, even ones you've just met (if you're frame is congruent). If that's hard to believe, why not try it on 10 chicks and see the response. They will light up. Chicks love touch.

But to your question - if the chick is leaving a club who cares what you do? If she gave you her number it's almost certain to end up in nothing (numbers from clubs end up flaking). So you should be taking her home to fvck her not letting her leave.
 

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that's cool, thanks guys.

Another question, how do you bear hug girls without being seen like a pervert? Lower body can't touch right, like legs. Or what if the girl is a lot shorter/taller than you? How do you hug then? :crazy:
 

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Go practice hugging your mom or sister... jeez... lol...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hand shakes are my pet peeve. I always go firm (with full hand). And I HATE it any other way.
 

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I've noticed drunk HBs ALWAYS prefer to hug BEFORE you leave. Quite amusing when you're sarging sober and they reject the handshake wanting a hug instead. Classic.
 
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