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JdelaSilviera

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We all know the difference a good hair style can make. Every time I am approached, my hair is looking very good. The problem it´s that doesn´t happen as often as I would like.

I´m tired of leaving home looking good and then getting back to my place at 5 am after the club with my hair looking like a "mess", losing volume, looking a bit greasy...
What products do you use to keep your hair in place. Also, I have some frizzy hair (always in the same place) which hit me after puberty, do you have any products tips for that?


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I stopped using shampoo earlier this year and that took my hair from limp!ck flat to sexy lions mane thick. Google No Poo if you want to try that. You basically replace shampoo with baking soda + water and conditioner with cider vinegar + water.

Only product I use is American Crew Fiber. High hold, low shine, holds without looking waxy, smells awesome. It'd probably work well for clubbing cause it stays in well.
 

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Well can you provide an example pic of how you normally wear your hair?

Sounds like you have hair that naturally is a bit oily. And though Id normally think that more gel would solve frizzy problems, all that would do is make your hair look stuff like Pauly D lol. Plus after sweating in the club, itd be an even bigger mess.

Id say wash your hair the night of, and use no product. And find a style that you can do without product. Thats what a buddy of mine does. No fuss, no muss. But as I said, provide an example pic...because what youre going for might not be achievable without product.
Drook said:
I stopped using shampoo earlier this year and that took my hair from limp!ck flat to sexy lions mane thick. Google No Poo if you want to try that. You basically replace shampoo with baking soda + water and conditioner with cider vinegar + water.

Only product I use is American Crew Fiber. High hold, low shine, holds without looking waxy, smells awesome. It'd probably work well for clubbing cause it stays in well.
I agree with the apple cider vinegar point. ACV has been something awesome for dread heads, and anyone looking for all natural products, for years. ACV really helps to clarify your hair, and get all the gunk out of it. And its great on your scalp. However, definitely dilute it with enough water if you have a sensitive scalp. It can sting a fair bit when first using it.

Back when I was trying to keep chemicals out of my dreads, I would use all natural castille soaps like Dr Bronners. Id clean my hair twice, then do an AVC cleanse and leave that in my hair for a bit like you would conditioner. Then Id rinse the ACV and oil my scalp with an essential oil.

My hair was always super fresh. Id recommend this method to you, minus the oil part, since black people hair is more dry than other groups of people (hence we need the oil more).
 

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It really depends on how you style your hair and how you prefer it to look.

The hair products I always have is V05 Surf Style and V05 Matte paste.

Surf style is something like a lighter version of Matte paste. I use it everyday, it gives hair volume and keeps it in place without seeming like you applied anything. I've had girls running fingers through my hair when done with V05 Surf Style asking what is it and if I put anything in it. If you get hair wet (water, sweat, beer or tequila), once it dries out, it maintains quite a bit of the previous look (and, running fingers through hair actually restores most of it). I've also got compliments in the morning after when I didn't wash my hair - it often keeps it non-greasy and fresh for 24 hours.

Best for medium length hair.

Matte paste is a lot stronger and more solid. If I mess up my hair with it (I've got really straight hair), it's often nearly impossible to untangle it without washing my hair. Don't use it that often, really, but I found it quite good when it's very windy or something, since surf style is a lot softer.
 

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iamnobody said:
Fvckin hell, can this get any gay-er?
Inner game, mates.
Um, inner game more so helps you after the girl is already interested. Looks tend to be the thing that gets many guys foot in the door. Whats gay about a guy looking good for women?

The best inner game in the world wont help you if the girl doesnt wanna bang you. And her wanting to bang you will have something to do with what you look like, especially in a club atmosphere.

In other words, women care about looks, and hair is a big part of a mans look.
 

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Just like a woman who thinks being smart and educated (while lacking beauty) should get her a quality mate, or a woman who is beautiful yet vain and shallow thinks she can secure her "alpha male" for long term, so does a man who neglects to improve himself in all aspects limits himself.

Inner game? Probably 95 percent of man's attractiveness, the most important part. But taking out those other 5% means you will never be the best.

And if a suit, cool t-shirt or a new hairstyle makes you feel more confident and happy about yourself, don't you think that it is an important part of ones inner game?
 

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Jaylan, I use more or less like this when I leave home (my goal look) :
http://www.google.pt/search?q=matth...r-un-corps-canon%2C20149%2C370628.asp;652;680

And then it goes like this (bit exaggerated) : http://www.google.pt/search?gs_rn=2...uck-monk-wig-bshw-3274-507360121.html;377;393

My hair is wavy, but when I sweat, or am near the sea it happens all the things I described, becomes much curlier, loses volume, looks greasy.

I also have oily skin and still have some mild acne, so it must contribute to that, perhaps it´s time I take accutane...
 

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Sure inner game is important, but many girls in the club or in day to day life, won´t give you a chance unless you look good. There are lots of over-confident people out there, but very few who have qualities to back up their made out of nothing confidence...

Three days ago, I saw a model looking guy, leaving the clube with a super hot girl, he didn´t even open his mouth. His wingman was the bold one who made all the talk, got the uglier friend...
 

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JdelaSilviera said:
Jaylan, I use more or less like this when I leave home (my goal look) :
http://www.google.pt/search?q=matth...r-un-corps-canon%2C20149%2C370628.asp;652;680

And then it goes like this (bit exaggerated) : http://www.google.pt/search?gs_rn=2...uck-monk-wig-bshw-3274-507360121.html;377;393
Yikes bro. Thats a big change lol. The McConaughey look seems like its maintained with little product. But based on your hair type, Id say you would need more product for it to hold, especially in a club since it can get hot.
My hair is wavy, but when I sweat, or am near the sea it happens all the things I described, becomes much curlier, loses volume, looks greasy.

I also have oily skin and still have some mild acne, so it must contribute to that, perhaps it´s time I take accutane...
Id say give the matte stuff a try that someone else mentioned. You do need something with good hold. However, if you are just a dude who naturally gets a good bit of scalp sweat, itll be hard to prevent losing your style when in a hot club. It also wouldnt hurt to take a dryer to your hair after putting product in it.

My homeboy would do this and itd help really seal and dry the gel into his hair longer. You cant go overboard though since you dont want your hair to be stiff, crunchy and dry feelings. But Id say other bros here would have better info on this, since Im just providing second hand accounts for your hair type, since Im a black dude with different hair.

But the apple cider vinegar and castille soap will help for anyone looking to cleanse and clarify a messy head. My scalp stop getting as dirty and oily once I started the vinegar rinses. And itd help reduce any flakes I would get too.

Regarding accutane, Id do your research on the side effects. I read enough things that turned me off to it, so I never tried it. I still have acne myself in my mid 20s. What helped cut it down was lots of water, less oily junk food, and a strict cleansing regimen. Go to acne.org and look up "the regimen". And then hit up the store and buy your face stuff.

I use the Clean and Clear line for my regimen. Or I get the store brand copy of Clear and Clear....like the RiteAid or Walmart brand if its cheaper. And two good tips from the acne.org forums which helped me were;

1. using apple cider vinegar as my post wash astringent, instead of witch hazel. Apparently the acidity and other good stuff in apples helps even out skin tone and promote healing. So after I wash my face, I use the ACV on a cotton pad, and then I do the benzoyl peroxide cream and moisturizer after.

2. Adding a half of a cap full of pure lemon juice to my water throughout the day. So whenever I have water, theres lemon in it. (id advise using a straw, since the acidity isnt great to constantly have on teeth enamel) Supposedly the properties of the lemon juice help push impurities out of the body. And Im talking about pure 100% lemon juice. The really strong kind you use to cook, not the stuff we drink in a glass with meals.

Hope this helps. As a fellow acne sufferer, I know that feel bro. Diet and sticking to your cleaning regimen are huge. I noticed that cutting out junk food, chocolate, and carbonated drinks really cleared up my skin. Cutting out coffee is supposed to help too, but I need my jo'.

All this said, your mileage my vary, but acne.org has user reviews for many products and methods. Id say give what I said a go before trying accutane. And if all else fails, accutane could really help you. It works for some, and not for others. Everyones acne is different.
 
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I am having the same issue with this hair. I have let it grow out for 3 months which is huge for me. I am going for the same sort of look but I seem to have really thick hair on top. It just looks really weird sometimes with so much volume. I have tried like 4 different products and the paste works the best. I am trying to stay away from the Wall Street slick look but sometimes my hair just pisses me off and I do it. People have said I look quite different not sure if it's a good thing or bad thing yet.


As for the ACNE. It blows. I had very very bad acne when I was young and mild still at 37. The scars really crush the confidence sometimes. I know it really matters to chicks also but there is really nothing I can do about it. I did accutane for like 2 years in high school and it sucked. I still had terrible acne and like others have said I truly believe there are side effects. I have a sore liver/kidney area and I have read some things that say it's directly related to it. The Dr's have no clue what it is which makes it even worse. I truly would think twice about it. It didn't help me and I still got all the scars. So really it just cost my MOM a **** ton of money for nothing. That is my story at least.
 

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Jaylan said:
Yikes bro. Thats a big change lol. The McConaughey look seems like its maintain with little product. But based on your hair type, youd Id say you would need more product for it to hold, especially in a club since it can get hot.
Id say give the matte stuff a try that someone else mentioned. You do need something we good hold. However, if you are just a dude who naturally gets a good bit of scalp sweat, itll be hard to prevent losing your style when in a hot club. It also wouldnt hurt to take a dryer to your hair after putting product in it.

My homeboy would do this and itd help really seal and dry the gel into his hair longer. You cant go overboard though since you dont want your hair to be stiff, crunchy and dry feelings. But Id say other bros here would have better info on this, since Im just providing second hand accounts for your hair type, since Im a black dude with different hair.

But the apple cider vinegar and castille soap will help for anyone looking to cleanse and clarify a messy head. My scalp stop getting as dirty and oily once I started the vinegar rinses. And itd help reduce any flakes I would get too.

Regarding accutane, Id do your research on the side effects. I read enough things that turned me off to it, so I never tried it. I still have acne myself in my mid 20s. What helped cut it down was lots of water, less oily junk food, and a strict cleansing regimen. Go to acne.org and look up "the regimen". And then hit up the store and buy your face stuff.

I use the Clean and Clear line for my regimen. Or I get the store brand copy of Clear and Clear....like the RiteAid or Walmart brand if its cheaper. And two good tips from the acne.org forums which helped me were;

1. using apple cider vinegar as my post wash astringent, instead of witch hazel. Apparently the acidity and other good stuff in apples helps even out skin tone and promote healing. So after I wash my face, I use the ACV on a cotton pad, and then I do the benzoyl peroxide cream and moisturizer after.

2. Adding a half of a cap full of pure lemon juice to my water throughout the day. So whenever I have water, theres lemon in it. (id advise using a straw, since the acidity isnt great to constantly have on teeth enamel) Supposedly the properties of the lemon juice help push impurities out of the body. And Im talking about pure 100% lemon juice. The really strong kind you use to cook, not the stuff we drink in a glass with meals.

Hope this helps. As a fellow acne sufferer, I know that feel bro. Diet and sticking to your cleaning regimen are huge. I noticed that cutting out junk food, chocolate, and carbonated drinks really cleared up my skin. Cutting out coffee is supposed to help too, but I need my jo'.

All this said, your mileage my vary, but acne.org has user reviews for many products and methods. Id say give what I said a go before trying accutane. And if all else fails, accutane could really help you. It works for some, and not for others. Everyones acne is different.
Thanks! Pretty helpful answer. It´s good to see some other guys who know the importance of looking good getting top chicks...
 
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