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had a date in a foreign language, LJBF translates to all languages?

drift king

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i just started a language college and met a few foreign chicks, i number closed a hot girl on monday but cos i had to do it in a foreign language it was hard for me to show my intentions through just body language seeing as i dont know the word for 'date' in the language i speak to her.

also everyone has just arrived looking to make friends, new people. so i got the impression today that she thought we were meeting as friends, meaning that the auto LJBF mode is on cos they're looking to make friends, not a bf. is attempting to pick up chicks and taking them out this early in the semester likely to cause more frequent friend-zones than usual?

i tried to kiss her, and i told her in the language i was going to kiss her but she didnt understand and pulled away. after that she was polite but seemed uncomfortable and i was rattled by it so i was mumbling a lot of crap there after. i suggested to her that i was busy today and tomorrow but on sunday we'll go to eat somewhere, she didnt say yes, she said translation speaking terms.. 'call me later i dont know what im doing.'

i think thats a shot down flake in what ever language right?

i made same mistake i always do about bringing up a 2nd date before 1st date has finished. she was in a rush to see her friend as we were walking back to dorms so when i kissed her goodbye she had this grimmace look on her face like she wasn't happy. i feel like i supplicated too much.

should i just not bother calling her now and just see her around campus to talk to her again?

if she thinks i was too keen and forward and i just play it cool being polite but not talking much and not calling to ask her out, if she's still interested she'll come to me right?
 

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You can pick up girls in any language if you can speak the language well enough. What languages do you speak?

I'm English but also speak a few foreign languages. When I was in Spain in July I had limited Spanish but managed to meet a few girls here and there. But the more fluent you are, the better.

With you situation...can you ask the girl out in English? Or is she a non-English speaker?

I would make your intentions known (in whatever language) and see if she reciprocates or not.
 

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No she doesn't speak english that's the problem, its all in the language we're learning so when I try to use the same stuff I use in english it works to an extent but does not flow or sound as good cos I need to dumb down my language. But I noticed my confidence drops when she pulled away from my kiss close which is normal but threw me off that I may seem screepy. To make matters worse when I saw her later I was outside sitting down talking 2 hot girls I know (both have bf's) which should be social proof above else she was walking past us but had her head down and had her phone by her ear, she didn't say anything and it so looked like she was pretending to make a call cos I don't think normal people look down and don't say anything on their phone unless to avoid eye contact. I'm surprised she saw me from direction she was coming from as there was a guy opposite me and I was talking to 1 of the hot girls and 2 guys who were passing by were trying to pick up the other 1 so it was quite crowded. Either way I assume the
 

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The next move is still the same, don't call her to set up the date, I chill at her dorms a lot cos there's a cafe downstairs where everyone studies so I'm bound to bump into her sooner rather than later, if I just give a smile and a hey nothing more it should hopefully reduce my desperation in her eyes, it can't hurt I have hot girls I'm talking to but if she's purposely avoiding eye contact with me then I already know my answer. She may just give me a smile and hello if I carry on just semi ignoring her not getting into convo with her, do u think she'll go out her way to talk to me if she stills likes me? I could tell she was interested in me in some way but I went for the kiss close too soon than acted afc being rattled by her rejection of it. She had interest now I think its gone. Damn.
 
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