goldengoose
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Most men ruin their relationships by changing their behavior. They will act "Alpha" at the beginning of the relationship, then they will change and become beta most likely due to the woman hinting he should do this or that for her. Once you change, she will become bored of you and start looking for another guy.
I replied to a post in the Mature Men's Forum about that. A poster's girlfriend was making him nice meals and 6 months into the relationship she hinted that he should be doing the dishes at her place after she cooks the meals. My replies are below. Don't change who you are. Don't let a woman change you or she will be changing new men when she gets bored of you. Thought this would help some of you out.
You know the old saying, "If something isn't broke, don't fix it."
Obviously, she made you nice meals in the past and never made a point for you to do the dishes. Why start now? She is the one who is deciding to make you the nice meals on her own, she can clean the few dishes there are with no problem at her own place.
Once you start giving into her whims, she will expect you to do the dishes all the time. Not only that, she will use this kind of tactic against you for other things as well. Once you start giving in, you will become soft and become a beta where you will become manipulated. This is where guys will run right off the tracks. If you're a real alpha, you wouldn't even consider cleaning a spoon.
When you stop acting like a "bit of an assh0le" to her, you will turn into a pvssy where she will take advantage of you and end your relationship. She will see that you were just a phony alpha pretending to be one. She's doing lots of nice sh1t for you with what you are doing now, don't screw it up by changing gears in mid flight.
If you want to help out, it should be on your own terms, not because she tells or hints at you to do them. Once you do that the jig is up because she will use it against you.
Let's say you do the dishes the next time. The next time after that she will get up from the table and go into the other room to watch TV while you get stuck doing the dishes because she expects you to.
Don't get into habits of changing things up in relationships. If it ain't broke don't fix it. I'm surprised the other poster dropped the ball on this. Always use common sense in dating and relationships.
The point is, she is inviting him over for dinner. He doesn't live with her. There should be no reason for him to be cleaning dishes. I can't imagine any guy even considering doing that. Some guy wearing an apron with a scrub brush cleaning away with the soapy water. I tell ya LOL
Once you start giving in, she will know to do this with other things. Then she will have you by the balls and will be running the relationship. First it will be the dishes, then it will be something else. Don't let yourself get into a situation like that.
You can do nice things, but not when she is telling you to. You give in once, then you will do it again. She will find your weakness and know what use to manipulate you. Women are always trying to find a soft spot to gain the upper hand.
Every guy (or girl that told me about the other guy) I've known that lost a relationship this way was because they changed. They quit beng the guy they used to be, they became a soft AFC catering to whatever the woman wanted. They were too content in the relationship to keep the frame. After a while the woman got bored of running the show. She was able to turn "the alpha" into the beta, she got tired of him being the new beta, then she started to look for another man.
Girls that cheated on their boyfriends and dumped them told me this: "Oh he used to be really cool but he changed into a different guy."
Women will say they want a guy like that, but when he becomes that guy, the chick will dump him because he is boring, he isn't "the guy" that was turning her on.
I replied to a post in the Mature Men's Forum about that. A poster's girlfriend was making him nice meals and 6 months into the relationship she hinted that he should be doing the dishes at her place after she cooks the meals. My replies are below. Don't change who you are. Don't let a woman change you or she will be changing new men when she gets bored of you. Thought this would help some of you out.
You know the old saying, "If something isn't broke, don't fix it."
Obviously, she made you nice meals in the past and never made a point for you to do the dishes. Why start now? She is the one who is deciding to make you the nice meals on her own, she can clean the few dishes there are with no problem at her own place.
Once you start giving into her whims, she will expect you to do the dishes all the time. Not only that, she will use this kind of tactic against you for other things as well. Once you start giving in, you will become soft and become a beta where you will become manipulated. This is where guys will run right off the tracks. If you're a real alpha, you wouldn't even consider cleaning a spoon.
When you stop acting like a "bit of an assh0le" to her, you will turn into a pvssy where she will take advantage of you and end your relationship. She will see that you were just a phony alpha pretending to be one. She's doing lots of nice sh1t for you with what you are doing now, don't screw it up by changing gears in mid flight.
If you want to help out, it should be on your own terms, not because she tells or hints at you to do them. Once you do that the jig is up because she will use it against you.
Let's say you do the dishes the next time. The next time after that she will get up from the table and go into the other room to watch TV while you get stuck doing the dishes because she expects you to.
Don't get into habits of changing things up in relationships. If it ain't broke don't fix it. I'm surprised the other poster dropped the ball on this. Always use common sense in dating and relationships.
The point is, she is inviting him over for dinner. He doesn't live with her. There should be no reason for him to be cleaning dishes. I can't imagine any guy even considering doing that. Some guy wearing an apron with a scrub brush cleaning away with the soapy water. I tell ya LOL
Once you start giving in, she will know to do this with other things. Then she will have you by the balls and will be running the relationship. First it will be the dishes, then it will be something else. Don't let yourself get into a situation like that.
You can do nice things, but not when she is telling you to. You give in once, then you will do it again. She will find your weakness and know what use to manipulate you. Women are always trying to find a soft spot to gain the upper hand.
Every guy (or girl that told me about the other guy) I've known that lost a relationship this way was because they changed. They quit beng the guy they used to be, they became a soft AFC catering to whatever the woman wanted. They were too content in the relationship to keep the frame. After a while the woman got bored of running the show. She was able to turn "the alpha" into the beta, she got tired of him being the new beta, then she started to look for another man.
Girls that cheated on their boyfriends and dumped them told me this: "Oh he used to be really cool but he changed into a different guy."
Women will say they want a guy like that, but when he becomes that guy, the chick will dump him because he is boring, he isn't "the guy" that was turning her on.
