Guy Friends

[jlazz]

I was wondering on what's your take for when you are around your guy friends. Are you totally different people? Do you still have that c/f attitude?

Also, I'm chill with everyone, but have a tendency to talk about people behind their backs. Nothing really bad, just some things to laugh at. Should I stop doing that and keep a more positive attitude?

My friends are really ****y when they don't have anything to be ****y about lol. Anyway, as soon as someone messes up or says something stupid, they are quick to bash him on it. I know they're kidding and whatnot, but I've been labeled the "dumbass" in the group because I'm mostly the one who says the dumbass comments. It doesn't bother me, but should I?

Is it just me or do you guys also notice that when you're around different people, your personality changes as well? When I hang around this one group of friends, I'm the alpha and the one telling stories, but when I hang around my other group, my buddy is the alpha and takes over.

When I go out w/ my buddy to places, he ****blocks without even knowing. Like he'll be the funny talkative guy he always is, and I won't have any chance to talk.

 

[Damian]

If your friends are any good friends at all, just talk to them about anything that may be troubling you. It's fine to keep the C+F attitude when you're with your buddies, but remember to be funny. Most people go a bit overboard with the ****y component and end up looking like @ssholes. You're friends cannot truly ****block you. It's probably your own inhibitions that get in the way when you're friends are doing well in a set. See if you can get around that.

-Damian

 

[jlazz]

Well, like my one good friends that I hang out with a lot he's naturally funny and has looks so he gets girls easily and I feel left out. But I also don't talk as much as him when I'm out with him because I feel inferior sort of. Like when I'm out with other people, I know I'm better than them and inside I have confidence. When I'm with him, I somehow feel he's automatically going to get girls and I feel inferior. How do I get around it?

 

[Damian]

Stop thinking that you are inferior. If you get that bad gut feeling when you're around this guy, remind yourself that it's all in your head. Because he's so charismatic, it gives you all the more reason to do so also. Get over your fears and just DO it.

-Damian