Guitar_Whizz
Master Don Juan
Alright guys, I was just browsing the forums and I see that there are various people posting approach journals, and I have decided that I'd like to do something similar. I've come to a realisation that my natural game isn't there yet, and that I relied on canned for way too long.
I've had a bit of a lull in my game lately because I've been so focused on earning a living as a musician that my head hasn't been 'tuned in' to sarging, so I've decided to do 100 approaches and write a journal online as I go.
I've also been relying on nights out with other PUAs too much, so I need to be 100% self-reliant.
This is really a personal thing to get me approaching regularly again and to develop natural game and ditch canned. My goal by the end of the 100 approaches will be to have integrated natural game into my normal life, rather than going out specifically to approach. I just want to REALLY focus on this and see how far I can take this seduction stuff, and a journal seems to be a good way to motivate myself.
I'm not putting a time limit on this either...but I will be posting as I go along. Hope you enjoy the read, any feedback would be appreciated too!
The first 3 approaches are from the last couple of days, the rest will follow as I do them!
APPROACH 1 - 11/9/2007
I was waiting for a train at Stockport train station and I couldn't find the times to my particular train, so I approached a HB7 and asked her if she knew when the next train was to Macclesfield. We got chatting for a minute, then she said 'why don't you ask a member of staff', so I replied 'well...you looked friendly!'. She started laughing. Unfortunately we had to part ways and get our trains, so I didn't get anywhere significant.
APPROACH 2 - 11/9/2007
After getting to Macclesfield I had to change platforms in a lift as I had all my busking equipment with me. Anyway, I got chatting to an older woman (possibly in her 40s or 50s, who knows?) who was also waiting for the lift, think I cracked a joke about the lift being slow or something, then I said 'so have you been anywhere nice?'. She was from Glasgow and we had a brief conversation while in the lift and while walking out of the station. I remembered Juggler's 90/10 rule and did most of the talking initially, she didn't really have time to open up because it was such a short timespan really, oh well.
APPROACH 3 - 12/9/2007
I was on the bus into town this morning and had all my busking euipment on a luggage trolley with me. As I was getting off the bus, I let a girl go in front of me and I smiled at her (rather exagerated smile!) and she smiled back, but I was out of state so I didn't really say anything. Hardly an 'approach' I know, more of 'non-verbal' approach, but hell I'll post it anyway!
APPROACH 4 - 12/9/2007
This was at Manchester Picadilly train station this evening. I was sitting waiting for my train home after a day's busking. A cute HB7.5 sat next to me (she actually asked if she could sit there). In my head I heard the line 'you can sit there, but only if you promise to keep your hands to yourself', but it'd been a long, stressful day and I was out of state, so I couldn't bring myself to speak those words.
Anyway, the HB was obviously a traveller judging by her rucksacks and stuff, so I opened with something related to that (can't remember exactly what) and we got into an easy, relaxed conversation. It turned out she was from Canada, but the french speaking part, though her english wasn't too bad. We talked about travelling, what she thought of the UK, she asked me some questions too. Generally the vibe was pretty good, I felt comfortable and the conversation was balanced. There was no point in number closing or going for an instant date though, because she was going to Cardiff and then leaving the UK a few days after that! So we parted company after a good interaction. If the logistics were better, this would have been an easy instant date or number close, oh well!
I've had a bit of a lull in my game lately because I've been so focused on earning a living as a musician that my head hasn't been 'tuned in' to sarging, so I've decided to do 100 approaches and write a journal online as I go.
I've also been relying on nights out with other PUAs too much, so I need to be 100% self-reliant.
This is really a personal thing to get me approaching regularly again and to develop natural game and ditch canned. My goal by the end of the 100 approaches will be to have integrated natural game into my normal life, rather than going out specifically to approach. I just want to REALLY focus on this and see how far I can take this seduction stuff, and a journal seems to be a good way to motivate myself.
I'm not putting a time limit on this either...but I will be posting as I go along. Hope you enjoy the read, any feedback would be appreciated too!
The first 3 approaches are from the last couple of days, the rest will follow as I do them!
APPROACH 1 - 11/9/2007
I was waiting for a train at Stockport train station and I couldn't find the times to my particular train, so I approached a HB7 and asked her if she knew when the next train was to Macclesfield. We got chatting for a minute, then she said 'why don't you ask a member of staff', so I replied 'well...you looked friendly!'. She started laughing. Unfortunately we had to part ways and get our trains, so I didn't get anywhere significant.
APPROACH 2 - 11/9/2007
After getting to Macclesfield I had to change platforms in a lift as I had all my busking equipment with me. Anyway, I got chatting to an older woman (possibly in her 40s or 50s, who knows?) who was also waiting for the lift, think I cracked a joke about the lift being slow or something, then I said 'so have you been anywhere nice?'. She was from Glasgow and we had a brief conversation while in the lift and while walking out of the station. I remembered Juggler's 90/10 rule and did most of the talking initially, she didn't really have time to open up because it was such a short timespan really, oh well.
APPROACH 3 - 12/9/2007
I was on the bus into town this morning and had all my busking euipment on a luggage trolley with me. As I was getting off the bus, I let a girl go in front of me and I smiled at her (rather exagerated smile!) and she smiled back, but I was out of state so I didn't really say anything. Hardly an 'approach' I know, more of 'non-verbal' approach, but hell I'll post it anyway!
APPROACH 4 - 12/9/2007
This was at Manchester Picadilly train station this evening. I was sitting waiting for my train home after a day's busking. A cute HB7.5 sat next to me (she actually asked if she could sit there). In my head I heard the line 'you can sit there, but only if you promise to keep your hands to yourself', but it'd been a long, stressful day and I was out of state, so I couldn't bring myself to speak those words.
Anyway, the HB was obviously a traveller judging by her rucksacks and stuff, so I opened with something related to that (can't remember exactly what) and we got into an easy, relaxed conversation. It turned out she was from Canada, but the french speaking part, though her english wasn't too bad. We talked about travelling, what she thought of the UK, she asked me some questions too. Generally the vibe was pretty good, I felt comfortable and the conversation was balanced. There was no point in number closing or going for an instant date though, because she was going to Cardiff and then leaving the UK a few days after that! So we parted company after a good interaction. If the logistics were better, this would have been an easy instant date or number close, oh well!
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