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grr...she's still talking to the ex

ScrewIt

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Somehow a little part of me feels like im being used.

She's going out with me behind her bf's back (i think theyre on some kind of break). and i was told she barely or not at all talks to the ex since seeing me.

She just sent me the pic we took together. she ended up telling me she sent the pic to her ex to see too...apparently he said we look good together, but she didnt fvckin tell him we were dating, so he thinks we're just friends.
And that means theyre still fvcking talking regularly.

Anyway that shyt got me in a bad mood and i got offline.

I want to give her time to break it off with both of them....but i want it to go my way or the highway right now...i dont want to deal with this shyt and get my emotions zapped before its too late.
 

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Well she is lying to her BF so why would you expect she would do anything different to you?
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
apparently he said we look good together
I don't know about you but the response he just gave her was handling it like a pro.

I think he knows what is going on but he doesn't care. He still gets to hit it and toss it back to you without labeling her a slvt. With his care free attitude and your frustrations he will probably get her back with no effort what so ever.

Maybe you should take a page from this guy and do the same, and date other women (you have oneitis BTW). Maintain the same no worry attitude and be cool about it because she really is not your girl to begin with (you were probably her rebound but not his replacement)

If her actions get to you, he wins.

DjDamage
 

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Re: Re: grr...she's still talking to the ex

Originally posted by DJDamage
I don't know about you but the response he just gave her was handling it like a pro.

I think he knows what is going on but he doesn't care. He still gets to hit it and toss it back to you without labeling her a slvt. With his care free attitude and your frustrations he will probably get her back with no effort what so ever.

Maybe you should take a page from this guy and do the same, and date other women (you have oneitis BTW). Maintain the same no worry attitude and be cool about it because she really is not your girl to begin with (you were probably her rebound but not his replacement)

If her actions get to you, he wins.

DjDamage
yes he did handle it like a pro sort of....She told me his response when he saw a pic of her & bf together...he didnt like it one bit.haha. Probably she didnt tell him that we were dating cuz she's afraid he'll think she's a slvt

Why should he worry, that dude was her bf for 5 years and now they're still in contact. But let me clear this up, there's her ex, her bf, and me in the picture.

When she was honest iwth me the other day, i thought i'd have a good chance to be his replacement but i dont know if its ever going to happen.

I dont know, honestly i do want a LTR. But i feel i'll be better off if i give her an ultimatum. I have a strange feeling when i see her , my inner jerk is going to come out.
 

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Re: Re: Re: grr...she's still talking to the ex

Originally posted by ScrewIt
Why should he worry, that dude was her bf for 5 years and now they're still in contact. But let me clear this up, there's her ex, her bf, and me in the picture.

I dont know, honestly i do want a LTR. But i feel i'll be better off if i give her an ultimatum. I have a strange feeling when i see her , my inner jerk is going to come out.
Sounds like she enjoys stringing everyone along. First off you are in a bad position, she is cheating on someone with you (you are her dirty little secret, so out of all of them you are more easily disposable because no one knows she is messing around).

An ultimatum will not work because she has 2 other guys in the background who currently don't give her sh1t and allow her to be her true self... ahem.. "SLVT!!!". You will lose if you give her an ultimatum.

This girl is not a good LTR material because she cheats and lies to everyone including you. You best NEXT!! the hoe.

DjDamage
 

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Re: Re: Re: Re: grr...she's still talking to the ex

Originally posted by DJDamage


An ultimatum will not work because she has 2 other guys in the background who currently don't give her sh1t and allow her to be her true self... ahem.. "SLVT!!!". You will lose if you give her an ultimatum.

The ex knows about the bf, but thinks im her friend.
the bf doesnt know jack **** whats going on, not about the ex (i think) and not about me. She wants to break up with the bf but doesnt want to hurt his feelings..or so she says.

Djdamage, i think you could be right about the ultimatum. But i dont know cuz i feel like i have a good chance. When she was honest to me the other day, she was afraid i would get pissed and walk away she was holding onto me tightly...but i dindt lose my cool and appreciated the fact that she was honest. And aside from teh fact that her IL in me is very high...she compliments me all the time and practically puts me on a pedestal.

meh i dunno, i guess ill try to date other chicks, let her see what she's missing out on. But its hard cause there arent much girls that im interested in dating. Whatevers, im going clubbing this sunday with buddies...and im going to let her know if she asks
 

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If she is going out with you behind his back, you can probably weasel sex out of the deal. Don't expect much more though.
 
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