"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Great date turned sour

AlexTheGreat

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I just had a really good date with my girl today. We went out chilling downtown, had icecream, talked a lot, had lots of fun. Basically, we were having a blast.

But she had told me she wanted to be home by a certain hour. I was ok with that, but I told her that I wanted to go pick up something before (something completely unrelated to her or the date). So it's time to leave, we get in my car and drive. It's rush hour, really bad, so we get stuck in traffic. Anyways, long story short, by the time I bring her back to her place, it's one hour past the time she wanted to be back at.

On the road, I was trying as best I could to go fast and bring her back in time, but after seeing that I couldn't do it, I got annoyed and you could see it, and I told her I was sorry to bring her back late. All she said was basically "I told you we'd be late" in this too-calm-to-be-good tone.

We get to her place and her mom's angry. (That was the reason why she wanted to get back early in the first place) I apologize to her mom for bringing her late, that she had nothing to do with it and that she actually wanted to leave way early but I held her back and insisted we go to that other place; the mom didn't seem to care much.

anyways, I left afterwards, but I really feel bad about this. I had told her that there'd be no problem, she'd be back home on time, yet I failed to keep my word. I acted really selfishly by going to pick up that thing, and now I feel bad about it.

What should I do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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chuchu

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You should have blaming on the traffics.

You know exactly that you won't get laid on this date, should of bing her home an hour early instead of an hour late.

If I am on a date and she said she need to go home at 10. Just when the convo get interesting I'll tell her I needed to go home early. Maybe set up a second date by 11?

Just don't bring this up again, if she brings it up just say its not your fault its the traffics, and you both didn't know about the busy traffic.
 

PectoralisMajor

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dude you did mess up slightly, but you have apologized to her and the mum, so no more dwelling, and no more mentioning it again. You've learnt from it right??

If it gets pulled up again, it was the traffic - remember?

dont do your own stuff when your with a chick, leave early and do it, dont drag her along too !
 

PectoralisMajor

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PS - she's probably in the sh1t with her mum, so go easy on her

you might not hear from her for a while !
 
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