"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Got the number but in a wrong way?

nmartinez12443

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I am a 27 year old teacher and met a 22 year old teacher at a convention. Talked to her at lunch and got her number like this,

"If you ever need advice on teaching or anything maybe I could contact you" She gave me her number.

That was on Tuesday, haven't spoke to her since and might see her on Thursday since thats when the convention ends.

Did I put myself in the friendzone by asking her for her number this way or should I proceed?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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nmartinez12443

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Fyi

She teaches a different subject and I can only see her once in a while (lunch possible breaks). I will say this though when I first talked to her she looked terrible/no make up/sweats etc. Today, totally dolled up, make up looked much better. I know I am reading to much into this.
 

outplayed

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Bro that was a very AFC way of asking her. That is exactly why you should have somehow told her to give you her number in a manly way and fvcked the sh!t out of her right there at the convention.
 

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But its not too late to attempt to recover from that. Next time you talk to her be upfront and say something like "I realized when I got your number the other day I wasn't being as upfront as I should have been. I got your number because I thought you were cute."

She may be flattered by this kind of honesty...she may not...but the sooner you can be upfront with her the better chance you have with her.

If she doesn't respond to this? Well...you aren't ****ing her now. Things won't be any different...and there are plenty of other woman you CAN hook up with!
 

search1ng

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shazzampua said:
But its not too late to attempt to recover from that. Next time you talk to her be upfront and say something like "I realized when I got your number the other day I wasn't being as upfront as I should have been. I got your number because I thought you were cute."

She may be flattered by this kind of honesty...she may not...but the sooner you can be upfront with her the better chance you have with her.

If she doesn't respond to this? Well...you aren't ****ing her now. Things won't be any different...and there are plenty of other woman you CAN hook up with!
Look I'm not some uber DJ or PUA but i'd like to think i have enough sense to be able to tell the OP NOT to say that.

to the OP, you've got her number next time you see her start talking to her in a way that conveys that you're attracted.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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619joe

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Why does it matter how the man got it?

He got it in the safe way and pretty disarming. Did the OP say he was gonna go through with giving her advice on teaching? No he just added the extra touch to the number close. Gives him a sneaky way to get the number.

Your definatly not on the friend zone,but Im sure your smart enough not to start another convo with her and just talk about teaching. Talk about other stuff to spice it up.
 
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