got into an argument now she isnt talking

[MattS]

Last night i got into an argument with this girl ive been talking to. We havent fvcked or anything but weve been hanging out and i think it comes down to that we are both confused and have mixed feelings about each other. We both said yea lets be freinds I even said it first. She then proceeds to say and do things that lead me on like blantaly being hold and cold. So I basically called her out didnt say anything to fvcked up nor raised my voice ever. I hurt her feeligns i think because i di1ssed her after she said some stupid sh1t. She then proceeded to post of facebook some sappy sh1t. I called her later on and she was like oh do you wanna talk about my facebook status? im like uhh no. Then she basically said shes still in love iwth her ex. i rebutle with well that girl you saw in the pic with me i still talk to her (girl is a dime piece) and i have feelings for her still (not really ture anymore, but we still talk and i fvcked her last month) all because i refused and decided to go to a baseketball game instead of hanging out with her last night after she said something about us not messing around and shes still not comfortable being one on one yet, yet shes slept over twice weve hung out like 8 times one on one. clearly playing stupid games.
So i basically say go back to your ex ill help u get back together since im your friend ill help you get there. then i said nevemind i dont wanna even be in the picture because we are just friends so i dont wanna be confused as we are dating. Then she says my guy frineds from back home dont talk to me like this im like yea cause they wanna fvck you and theyre scard to say sh1t to you. IM like well i m not your friends from back home (ghetto uneducated clowns who orbit around her cause they wanna fvck her). she obv gets offeneded and hangs up. i obv feel immediately bad I call her twice no answer. Write her a couple of texts no answer. wake up today no texts or calls. So i call her one last time no answer then i text her and say "thought it took a lot for you to get mad anways im sorry but if you want space or to never talk again i will respect that. and left it at that.

i havent had those type of feelings in a long time they were pretty overbearing after she hung up. I was high out of my mind and my mind was rushign a million miles a second about this stupid girl. shes 28 and she immediately delted me from her facebook lol mature i know. I didnt sleep well at all kept on waking up despite the fact i was high and i took nyquil to sleep.

God knows if she will ever call me again but i know im not initiating anymore cuz i did enough obv. she probably needs time but god dam shes fvcked up for not even replying despite all ive done for her so far.

 

[betheman]

she sounds a bit...a lot...needy, NEXT

 

[mikeyb]

she sounds a bit...a lot...needy, NEXT

Seconded. I'm not gonna start with why this situation is bad for you but it's clear you need to move on and forget this girl - no contact.

 

[The Bad Ass Canadian]

By hanging up and leaving you to scramble, you lost the upper hand. She can now move on knowing she "won"...for lack of a better term because she's now got the power to allow or deny you.

You acted like a wussy young boy, too, from this vantage point. You lost your composure and said some pretty messed up stuff. If you were a stable and secure man you'd have just let it be and not "go there" with some of your remarks.

Next.

 

[terran2k]

yeah i agree with the above post. she hung up on you, she should be calling you to apologize. Sometimes not apologizing gets you what you want. infact most of the time for me.

 

[Betamax]

Definitely ... NEXT !

 

[Igetit!]

Last night i got into an argument with this girl ive been talking to. We havent fvcked or anything but weve been hanging out and i think it comes down to that we are both confused and have mixed feelings about each other.

Dude...what is it you want with this girl? I mean do you want to date her,just be her friend,or what? Because if you're interested in her sexually,you sure have a funny way of showing it.


You say you've gotten into an arguement with her,that you two have never had sex,but have "hung out" together,and that BOTH of you are confused and have mixed feeling about each other.

All that drama,and you two aren't even dating/in a relationship?


What the fudge dude? And you've been a member here since 2005???

We both said yea lets be freinds I even said it first. She then proceeds to say and do things that lead me on like blantaly being hold and cold. So I basically called her out didnt say anything to fvcked up nor raised my voice ever. I hurt her feeligns i think because i di1ssed her after she said some stupid sh1t. She then proceeded to post of facebook some sappy sh1t. I called her later on and she was like oh do you wanna talk about my facebook status? im like uhh no. Then she basically said shes still in love iwth her ex. i rebutle with well that girl you saw in the pic with me i still talk to her (girl is a dime piece) and i have feelings for her still (not really ture anymore, but we still talk and i fvcked her last month) all because i refused and decided to go to a baseketball game instead of hanging out with her last night after she said something about us not messing around and shes still not comfortable being one on one yet, yet shes slept over twice weve hung out like 8 times one on one. clearly playing stupid games.

Umm...ok,so let's see.....


1:You told this girl that you wanted to be "just friends" even though you KNOW you're sexually interested in her.


2:When she told you that she's not over her ex,you LIED and told her that you still have feeling for someone else as well,sort of a "tit for tat" thing if you will.


YOU did all that,but you say that she's the one "playing games"? That was a good one man,lol. That one made my side hurt. :crackup:

Then she says my guy frineds from back home dont talk to me like this im like yea cause they wanna fvck you and theyre scard to say sh1t to you. IM like well i m not your friends from back home (ghetto uneducated clowns who orbit around her cause they wanna fvck her).

Oh...oh I see. So you're not like those "ghetto uneducated clowns" who ORBIT her because they want to have sex with her.


So you're not like those guys,right? Umm...excuse me,but didn't you start off this thread saying you and her "haven't fvcked yet"? You said that in the second sentence of this thread.


So apparently thought/hope of you two having sex is on your mind.
And in that same second sentence,you said that you two have been hanging out together.



So you've been having out with a girl who you've been thinking about having sex with.


Yeah,you're right. You're not at all like those "uneducated clowns" who keep hanging around her because they want to sleep with her.

she obv gets offeneded and hangs up. i obv feel immediately bad I call her twice no answer. Write her a couple of texts no answer. wake up today no texts or calls. So i call her one last time no answer then i text her and say "thought it took a lot for you to get mad anways im sorry but if you want space or to never talk again i will respect that. and left it at that.

Well any chance you had of dating this girl most likely just went out the window with this behavior of yours right here.


MikeyB suggested using no contact. It's HIGHLY UNLIKELY that even that will help you out now. If you had done it right when she hung up on you instead of repeatedly calling her and texting her,you'd be in a much better position.

I didnt sleep well at all kept on waking up despite the fact i was high and i took nyquil to sleep.

You lost sleep over a girl you're even dating yet. That in itself shows how far off track this whole thing is. If you lost sleep over her,then obviously you're emotionally invested in her,and that shouldn't be.


You're all emotionally invested in someone you're never had a single dated with, nor have had any sexual enocunter with.



You're been here too long for that nonsense.

she probably needs time but god dam shes fvcked up for not even replying despite all ive done for her so far.

She's "fvcked up"??? Dude,you couldn't have drove her away any faster from you if you had used a vehicle from NASCAR.


Basically EVERYTHING YOU DID repelled her.


I RARELY suggest this,but you may want to have a look at that "DJ Bible".


You have some twisted thinking that needs to be straightened out.

 

[Iceberg]

All I can say is, I rarely argue with girls I bang. So forget about arguing with girls who play a lesser role in my life.

If there's no sex going on, then what's there to be so emotional about?

If you let a girl who's not even banging you get under your skin like that, then you're spending too much time with her. Basically, you're one of her orbiters that you spoke of.

It's your fault. Learn. Move on. Get better.

 

[Groovy]

Make friends, not enemies!

Be a gentleman! It's a smart thing to do, cmon... The more friends you have the better!

Number two, be healthy. Don't loose sleep over a girl. Why? There are only two things you can loose sleep about:

Nr. 1 you lack her approval. So what? As long as you have your own, it doesn't matter.

Nr. 2 you NEED sex. Wanting is different. You don't suffer over things you don't need. If you want sex, but you can't get it, then you're cool... I could use some comments on this one, all understand what I'm saying? So what if you aren't getting laid? It's not like it's a need. You're gonna want to get laid one day, but it doesn't have to be today. And anyways there are other more important stuff (Like your self esteem\happiness and health isn't it?), plus there are many hot chickas anyway, so screw this 1 if you're attracted to her but she doesn't want to get sex with you... Kill the desperation, to channel pook, golden advice, where is that SOB did he die or what?

Try focusing on something other then sex, go watch some comedy perhaps, or find something that you LIKE to do, do you have any hobbies? Get some, and remember to be manly and confident.

What's amazing to me is that you've been here for 5 years and probably one of the first things you learned was to not need girls. If you look at it, it's kinda wacky that you suffered,(Altough understandable) because if you had reminded yourself of the advice here you would not be in this mess. It's not enough to be on this site, you have to follow it's advice too, why is this so hard? And it seems to happen so often too.

 

[HeyPachuco!]

The bottom line is that you should NEVER argue or get p!ssed at a girl you aren't fvcking yet. However, showing anger is attractive AFTER you've fvcked her and the girl will usually do everything in her power to make things right, because girls dislike seeing those who they care about upset or angry, especially if she believes its her wrong-doing. Never argue with a chick you haven't already laid bro. She'll just laugh, get off of the emotion and delete your number.

 

[Lucifero]

Last night i got into an argument with this girl ive been talking to.

You argued with a woman?

:crackup:

Damn, you are a ****ing chump!

 

[Lucifero]

The bottom line is that you should NEVER argue or get p!ssed at a girl you aren't fvcking yet.

Whether you are ****ing her or not, arguing about anything is a dumb ass thing to do.

 

[Lucifero]

she immediately delted me from her facebook lol mature i know. I didnt sleep well at all kept on waking up despite the fact i was high and i took nyquil to sleep.

You have a Facebook too? And when she deleted you as a friend it messed up your sleep so bad you had to drug yourself just to get some rest??

:crackup:

I changed my mind, you arent a chump...you are a *****.