"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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napoleon

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I got a certain problem with girls I dont like. I could never think of having girl friends. With every girl I dont find attractive I find it difficult to talk, hang out.. because I fear they will think I'm hitting on them. This is not a joke. I fear they will hit on me back .

How could I solve this? Do you guys have that problem.


PS. For instance I don't want to talk to a fat class friend because I think she'll think I'm hitting on her...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by napoleon
I got a certain problem with girls I dont like. I could never think of having girl friends. With every girl I dont find attractive I find it difficult to talk, hang out.. because I fear they will think I'm hitting on them. This is not a joke. I fear they will hit on me back .

How could I solve this? Do you guys have that problem.


PS. For instance I don't want to talk to a fat class friend because I think she'll think I'm hitting on her...

This was me before.... I didn't want them to think I liked them 1 bit!! at all.
So I half ignored them/ half played it cool for the most part. Thats just what I did

(waddaya know, thats a coincidence, this is the same as not acting needy.. hmm)

I think you need to be a little rude more and just make fun of them. Just imagine someone doing that to you

BTW im not a Don Juan, im just a keyboard Jockey
 

napoleon

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YES EXACTLY LIKE YOU SAY!!!!!!!!!


Any more advice you all?
 

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Originally posted by napoleon
I got a certain problem with girls I dont like. I could never think of having girl friends. With every girl I dont find attractive I find it difficult to talk, hang out.. because I fear they will think I'm hitting on them. This is not a joke. I fear they will hit on me back .

How could I solve this? Do you guys have that problem.


PS. For instance I don't want to talk to a fat class friend because I think she'll think I'm hitting on her...
Well, then don't talk, or hang out with them. I think being hit on by girls is fun. It just depends on how creative you want to be in rejecting them.
 

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I feel your pain.

You’re just afraid of hurting their feelings, right?

I’ve felt the someway before.

But I got wised.

You can’t control what people think. Especially women.

A girl is automatically going to think you like her when you approach her no matter what your intentions are.

I even had a couple of lady friends told me in the past, “yeah when the first time I met you I thought you liked me.” And no I wasn’t AFC or anything I just talked to them 6 mins tops just because I wanted to meet new people and at the end I got their number and they invited me to a party.


So the point is don’t worry if a Fat or ugly girl or any girl for that matter likes you. That’s THEIR problem NOT yours.

As long as you’re not leading them on being needy and AFC then it’s all-good.

Stop treating a girl differently by their looks.

Because it’s going to bite you in the azz when you meet a chick you think is really hot.

So if you want to chat up a fatty then do it and stop worrying.

You’re not doing anything illegal here if you do.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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NOW THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT!
THANKS MAN!!!!!!
 

DJ_in_making

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Just see them as guy friends
 
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