This has happened to most of us, I'm sure. You've got a friend who you've known for some time, and suddenly you start seeing her in a different way. So what do you do? Well, we've all read the basics- start acting more like a boyfriend and not like a therapist for their daily problems. Initiate kino a lot more, etc. etc. This stuff helps a lot, but where do you go from there?
Here's what I did. I was with my friend who I've developed certain feelings for, and we were talking about normal everyday things. Of course, I've been using the above techniques and they were certainly going in my favour, but I needed to really start initiating things. Funnily enough, one little line worked wonders for me, and here it is...
"You were in my dream last night, y'know..."
She'll inevitably say "really..?"
"Yeah... you didn't perform that well, though!"
Boom. That's it. I took what should have been a horribly cheesy, creepy line and I made a joke out of it. I could have easily relented at this point and said "only joking, I didn't dream that at all", but I didn't. So she asked me why she didn't perform well, and I went into elaborate detail, keeping it playful and teasing. Nevertheless, I knew exactly what was going through her mind at that point. So, from that moment, it was game on. Suddenly the topic of sex became very popular with us, and best yet, it felt comfortable and right. It was simply a matter of time before we made this fake dream a reality (but I should point out, she does actually perform quite well!).
Give it a go. Avoid all the awkward conversations like "so err, have you ever thought of me like that..?" This worked for me, and it just might for you too.
Here's what I did. I was with my friend who I've developed certain feelings for, and we were talking about normal everyday things. Of course, I've been using the above techniques and they were certainly going in my favour, but I needed to really start initiating things. Funnily enough, one little line worked wonders for me, and here it is...
"You were in my dream last night, y'know..."
She'll inevitably say "really..?"
"Yeah... you didn't perform that well, though!"
Boom. That's it. I took what should have been a horribly cheesy, creepy line and I made a joke out of it. I could have easily relented at this point and said "only joking, I didn't dream that at all", but I didn't. So she asked me why she didn't perform well, and I went into elaborate detail, keeping it playful and teasing. Nevertheless, I knew exactly what was going through her mind at that point. So, from that moment, it was game on. Suddenly the topic of sex became very popular with us, and best yet, it felt comfortable and right. It was simply a matter of time before we made this fake dream a reality (but I should point out, she does actually perform quite well!).
Give it a go. Avoid all the awkward conversations like "so err, have you ever thought of me like that..?" This worked for me, and it just might for you too.