Got a female perspective of online dating and realistic expectations

[ThisNThat]

Was talking to a female friend of mine about online dating. We were talking about how both men and women have unrealistic expectations. She said she was out with her girlfriends and they all had their Tinder apps up and she told me they were swiping left on every guy.

Go figure, right? lol

 

[Urbanyst]

I swipe left on most women too.

Women seem to hate online dating for different reasons. Their main problem is they believe they can overcome being ugly or fat by taking a picture with a celebrity or by having the Eiffel tower behind them to show how well traveled and connected they are.

Another funny thing is when they only show headshots to hide how FAT they are. Or when they only show group pics with hotter women so you cannot tell they are the FAT one. If only they can get a conversation started with the hot/rich guy, he will overlook how FAT they are and date them for their personality. Hahahahahahaa.

 

[shesabranchswinger]

Crazy I saw 4 or 5 women I knew online dating and they all still have their accounts. They will be the cat lady's of the future here in a few years at this rate.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Not sure if here or in an other board someone posted an experiemnt where women were shown pictures of men.

According the result women considered 80% of men below average in terms of look...now it doesnt take einstein to understand which one is the problem.
Add to that that she may not like your bio, some place where you got a pic and so on...

Anyway I also swipe left to about 70% of women mostly cause of their look and often cause they look like instagram fan chaser or divas...if you couple that with me being not that goodlooking nor photogenic its clear why I hardly have any match...lol...sig...

Regarding women taking group pictures, landskape pictures or any other trick to force me to open their profile I know 90% of the times that it was not worth to do it...sure some of them seems nice person according to what they write but looks and body shape are missing.

 

[Tenacity]

Another funny thing is when they only show headshots to hide how FAT they are.

Yes! What's up with that shyt lol? That drives me nuts. You are scrolling through and you see this chick with a cute a.ss face on the thumbnail, then you click on the profile and this bytch is like 287lbs. That's if she even has a body pic up, sometimes they will just have pics that stop at the top of their breasts.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

My (female) flatmate brings up online dating the other night.

She asks if I've done it, and I regale her with a couple of horror stories; as some know I'm not fan of OLD. She starts going, on asking why I think all the online guys in the local area are in the media/creative industries. I'm like, well duh, the local area is well known for accommodating those industries in particular, among others. I suggest speed dating (which on recent reflection, actually seems like it could be quite an efficient way of going about things). She's like, yeah, she went to one event in the city, but it was 'full of bankers'. Again, the City of London is the financial district ....

This demonstrates the female mindset perfectly; they're not thinking like men. For goodness sake, this girl couldn't even logically reason around the fundamental concept of local population demographics; in a city of 9 million people, and 150 square miles, she just expects her ideal man, with the ideal job to just be present in her immediate 2-3 mile radius. Not that a job is (always) a terribly fcking important consideration anyway.

And this, gents, is why I bang on and on about men taking responsibility and appropriate action. Women think they can be responsible and rationalise like men do, but by and large, they can't. Their brains are simply wired differently; their hormones and consequent feel-feels fluctuate like the wind. In the same instance, attempting to rationlise their thinking and behaviour from a male point of view will drive a man to distraction; as indeed it seems to a lot here.

Don't listen to the nonsense coming out of women's mouths about what they think/say they want. Do not buy in to their overt, idealistic 'rationalisations' of what they're looking for, because they're all looking for the same things. We know what they want; attention, entertainment and security. Demonstrate those values, refuse to become emotionally attached, always have two in the bag, and let the noise wash over your head, because that's all it is.

 

[ThisNThat]

Not sure if here or in an other board someone posted an experiemnt where women were shown pictures of men.

According the result women considered 80% of men below average in terms of look...now it doesnt take einstein to understand which one is the problem.
Add to that that she may not like your bio, some place where you got a pic and so on...

Anyway I also swipe left to about 70% of women mostly cause of their look and often cause they look like instagram fan chaser or divas...if you couple that with me being not that goodlooking nor photogenic its clear why I hardly have any match...lol...sig...

Regarding women taking group pictures, landskape pictures or any other trick to force me to open their profile I know 90% of the times that it was not worth to do it...sure some of them seems nice person according to what they write but looks and body shape are missing.

Yep...the original source of all this was OK Cupid...

There's also an author out there that had acknowledged her flaw as a single woman in how realistic she even was when choosing who to date.

Book: Marry Him: The Case of Settling For Mr. Good Enough

She emphasizes how single women are so fixated on the things that aren't important in a partner than what IS actually important in a partner. Now if a woman like this author can finally recognize this and "settle", then may they would be happy.

 

[Trainwreck]

I've seen the competition on Tinder through a girls phone and most of the guys were all normal well rounded guys. However, all the girls I see are either basic **** duck face or whales trying to hide their fatness in pictures.

 

[ThisNThat]

I've seen the competition on Tinder through a girls phone and most of the guys were all normal well rounded guys. However, all the girls I see are either basic **** duck face or whales trying to hide their fatness in pictures.

Yeah, Tinder, Snapchat, Instgram, it's like they were made for selfie pics only.