"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Got a bartender last night, thanks to this site

Lincoln

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Well I have been reading and reading and kind of took the guess work out of a lot of my game and went out to experiment with what really works well for me.

So I know I had some sort of "game" but I struggled in the bar/club scene. If I could be introduced to someone through a mutual friend, it seemed to put me in a better place. Otherwise I think I just kinda came off weird to a complete stranger.

Long story, good looking bartender...I ask the male bartender about her, he told me a few things but summed it up by saying I was wasting my time. She was hot, but had that "I am female hear me roar" kind of attitude.

I got her out to dance and ask her to come party with my friends after she closes. She said "Hun I don't date men I meet from work"...I started laughing and said "Date?". I could tell she was in shock and it really did hurt her feelings. So to defuse it I twisted her around on the dance floor a few times lol.

After that she was ready to go. She got closed up about 30 minutes later and spent an hour trying to qualify herself as girlfriend material while drinking tequila straight from the bottle. (Yah, right sounds good to me? LOL) I just listened...ended up taking her home. She was still asleep when I went to work, but now that I'm back from lunch I have a big THANK YOU written in lipstick on my freakin bathroom mirror.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DavenJuan

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perfect example of not really caring what she "says" but more of "how she acts".

and the fact that you let her know that she was jumping the gun with the whole dating thing. it made her more comfortable with you because she knew you were not expecting anything.

its always good to take a learning experience from the negative, but its even more important to REALIZE the things you did well from the postive.

good job brother
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

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