Good or Bad? Girl says....

[Potbelly]

I was talking to this girl I had oneitis for a few years ago because we ran into each other at the bus station recently.

Anyways, somehow the conversation topic got to relationships and I said something about it would be interesting to have a GF or relationship.

Then she said something that got me thinking:

She said that I always seemed really busy in school and that my life was already really bustling w/o a GF.

I smiled and laughed and then we talked about other stuff.

So I was thinking, is that a good thing? I think it is, that women see me as busy and independent, even when I didn't work to give off that impression at all during my HS days.

cheers djs.

 

[floydtheater07]

I think having a life is attractive. If you're doing something, it's more attractive than if you're not.

 

[foomee]

I think having a life is attractive. If you're doing something, it's more attractive than if you're not.

Yeah, my best friend here in college got dumped because of this. His girlfriend flat out left him for another guy that was very similar to him, but this guy actually had a life and did stuff (swim team and biking). My friend just has his college life, school work, and friends... he had no real passion for anything. She even told him all of this. So it's very very attractive if you keep yourself busy and have a life other than your girlfriend.

 

[christz]

you'll find that if your just dateing a girl or "talking" to a girl and all you do is focus on her and nothing else that her intrest at first will hold steady then after a while it will go down, down, down

going over to your girls house day in and day out, forceing yourself to be with her every wakeing minute of every single day will seem great at first because you have no life, and hell it may even be great to her at first. and even if she doesn't have one as well she will still boot you to the curb in short order.. because during this time what happens is sex gets boreing and then "comfort" sets in and all you end up doing is going to work coming home, changeing then driveing over to your girls house sitting your butt down and watching tv.. Sound like fun.. NOT

it may take a month, two months or a year but it will happen and it'll be nobody's fault but your own

 

[sparky0000]

Yeah, my best friend here in college got dumped because of this. His girlfriend flat out left him for another guy that was very similar to him, but this guy actually had a life and did stuff (swim team and biking). My friend just has his college life, school work, and friends... he had no real passion for anything. She even told him all of this. So it's very very attractive if you keep yourself busy and have a life other than your girlfriend.

Swim Team and Biking is a life? Sounds more like a slacker if you ask me. I could capture this chub in a few minutes.

You boys continue to astound me in your simplicity. Just freaking LIE. Ok? Lie to friends, lie to your family, and most importantly - lie to YOURSELF. Act like you already have everything you want. You will be amazed with what follows.

 

[Potbelly]

Alright thanks guys.

Now that I look back on it, I really did have a lot going for me...I just didn't see it because well...my improvements came very slowly hour by hour, second by second, and while I couldn't see it clearly, others could see me gradually grow and improve year by year.

After she said that I couldn't but think "is this why she didn't like me?" But now I see that she respects me because of what I did and how I had a life outside of girls.

Thanks guys.

P.S. Sparky, sorry man, lieing isn't goign to solve much. I used to be caught up in a world of lies but not anymore, I am starting clean and fresh with no lies. I'm the real deal.

 

[Vypros]

Did you slide your penis into her vagina after she said it?

I think this is a pretty good litmus test to see if what she said was good or bad.

 

[christz]

Swim Team and Biking is a life? Sounds more like a slacker if you ask me. I could capture this chub in a few minutes.

You boys continue to astound me in your simplicity. Just freaking LIE. Ok? Lie to friends, lie to your family, and most importantly - lie to YOURSELF. Act like you already have everything you want. You will be amazed with what follows.

so if i tell a girl i have a ferrari sitting at the shop and a house in the hamptons and a movie deal that's waiting to get penned is that good enough?

 

[Potbelly]

Did you slide your penis into her vagina after she said it?

I think this is a pretty good litmus test to see if what she said was good or bad.

ahaha no, I didn't haha. but good idea, I'll try it next time, but I tried on this one for 2 yrs and just moved on, i don't want to go back.