Good Looking People Mindset??

[DJnoob]

I was wondering if only HOT women approach you or even the ugly fat ones approach you too or those women who THINK they are good looking (ig uess you can say women who have confidence)

Do you think its same for women? They are soooo good looking that most of the guys get intimidated by their beauty and so no one approaches her.. It then makes her think she's ugly or something is wrong with her. She then lowers her standards (she now thinks she's a hb7 but she's a 9) and takes any confident guy (even the ugly ones) who is willing to step up.

What do you guys think of this?

 

[Le Parisien]

Ok, I think it's important to clear a myth that some guys tend to perpetuate, either consciously or unconsciously.

The women who are so good looking that they NEVER get approached by guys due to the intimidation factor, well, they DO NOT exist.

Just take the analogy with extremely selective schools. Do you think that Harvard can't get enough applicants simply because they are so selective that most students don't even dare/bother to apply?

Now let's come back to women. The fact is that the extremely hot girl, who "normally" would be approached more than 100 times a day is "only" approached by 20 guys everyday, 20 bold guys who are either confident or think that they "have nothing to lose" by approachinh her.
20 times or 100 times, she still gets approached a lot.

So the "It then makes her think she's ugly or something is wrong with her. She then lowers her standards", it's just wishful thinking.
:nono:

But, personally I've met extremely hot girls who are very "shy" or reserved due to this daily bombardment of approaches. They adopt a very low key attitude to avoid attention and approaches. Ironically, some average guys would think that it shows they are more "accessible", "they don't know they are hot since they don't flaunt it".
Trust me, even the shy/reserved hot girls know they are hot, and prefer good looking guys...

 

[saki]

Most of these so called "hot women" are not so hot when they are not wearing any makeup or sitting on the toilet taking a big smelly shiit. All women have insecurities and have their down days. The most beautiful woman can feel that men dont want them because of their minor flaws. Also, just caz she is hot and approached repeatedly, does not mean she values herself. Some of these women know they have the physical beauty and that guys just want to sleep with them and they feel that this bars them from any long term value. Unfortunately, good looking guys have this same problem- they are not percieved as a very stable long term partner. This is another one of our society's superficial stereotypes.

 

[theSpeculator]

So Le Parisien,

Why do you still post here since you obviously don't need much advice?

I'm just wondering. For me it's usually to see what's going on and maybe get some laughs here and there. And you're asian right?

 

[ScrewIt]

Some of these women know they have the physical beauty and that guys just want to sleep with them and they feel that this bars them from any long term value. Unfortunately, good looking guys have this same problem- they are not percieved as a very stable long term partner. This is another one of our society's superficial stereotypes.

i think what you wrote above speaks pretty well about good looking people.
another common stereotype is that physically beautiful people get by in life with their looks, thus less hard working.

About everything above, i think that's the case why good looking people DO have the insecurities they possess. they're all just good eye candy, and people may be nice to them, yet no one takes them seriously.

 

[Le Parisien]

So Le Parisien,

Why do you still post here since you obviously don't need much advice?

I'm just wondering. For me it's usually to see what's going on and maybe get some laughs here and there. And you're asian right?

Actually I keep coming here and post from time to time for a couple of reasons:

1) People like to talk about who they are, what they do, what they know etc... I'm no exception. So in a way I come here to tell my stories and share my experiences and my knowledge and theories. But at the same time, I know that it can be helpful for others

2) I also learn from other people's experiences and opinions. Sure I do feel that I usually don't need that much advice, but there are always things you don't know right? For me it's not just about getting girls, people share about their point of view on life, happiness, love or any aspect of everyday life... Just give you a trivial example: the eternal debate between real buff guys and athletic fit guys on whether it's good to have BIG BIG muscles opened my eyes on the fact what I deemed as self-evident might be regarded as totally wrong by other people. The looks matter/don't matter is another interesting topic.

3) I also have a more practical and personal reason to come here, and it's a very big one: it keeps my English sharp! It's been almost two years since I left the US for good for Paris, I haven't used English that much ever since. I can feel that my English is getting more rusty everyday. And I don't like that. Sure I get to practice "professional" English from time to time at my job, but I want to keep my everyday English skills sharp.

And to your last question: yes I'm Asian, but not your average stereotypical Asian, hehe...

 

[theSpeculator]

yes I'm Asian, but not your average stereotypical Asian, hehe...

So am I, let's chat up sometime.

 

[Tazman]

I don't think there's such a thing as a hot ass woman believing she's unattractive. She may feel a little insecure because she didn't get with a certain guy she REALLY likes or gets dumped (rarely, if ever), but make no mistake, she's VERY aware of how attractive she is because it's reinforced every time a guy approaches her, stares, whistles, honks, etc. Women aren't stupid, and will get the best they believe they can get just like guys.

 

[Le Parisien]

I don't think there's such a thing as a hot ass woman believing she's unattractive. She may feel a little insecure because she didn't get with a certain guy she REALLY likes or gets dumped (rarely, if ever), but make no mistake, she's VERY aware of how attractive she is because it's reinforced every time a guy approaches her, stares, whistles, honks, etc. Women aren't stupid, and will get the best they believe they can get just like guys.

That's exactly what I think.
You put it perfectly man!
:flowers: :cheer:

 

[Last Man Standing]

Here's is the thing boys - women, as they age. physically deteriorate at an exponential pace -- and they know it! They age even faster once they give birth. And when they get older and give birth then forgedddabouit!

Youth IS the beauty of a woman!