Going out with a bang...

[FireOnTheMountain]

Hmm.


Well, I have all but abandoned this project lately. As I predicted, I never heard from that Chinese girl again.

I still try to say funny things to girls I interact with at grocery stores, restaurants, etc. But I don't try very hard and it doesn't really go anywhere.

To be honest, ever since the time I tried to dance with that girl in the club and everyone said I looked gay, I just haven't had the same determination. It's dumb, but true. I was making real progress before that, which helped spur me on, but now I find it hard to get motivated.


But the real reason is because of the job I have.
It's a good job. Not to brag, but the pay is well above the starting salary for fresh college graduates. The problem is that it's also pretty exhausting. I sit in front of a computer all day and by the time I'm finished. my eyes are bleary and tired and I feel on the verge of a headache. Usually a hot shower relaxes my back but I still just feel like laying around and doing nothing.

My job offers a discount at a local gym. I think I will try that--I've heard exercise can help give you more energy. In fact, I bought a bicycle several weeks ago and after riding it for an hour or two, I feel much more awake than after drinking coffee or soda. I keep saying I am going to get in better shape but I never do it. It can't be that hard, come on.


As far as the band, it still sucks but we are going to play a show in mid-October. Maybe I can get back into things then.

I'm trying to have more fun lately and am posting this from my college town's library. Maybe I will try to find some girls after I'm done. Previously I was afraid I would get a reputation as a loser who hits on girls and always fails (It's a real small college) but I shouldn't worry now that I graduated. Nothing to lose, right?

 

[FireOnTheMountain]

Muahahah, I'm glad I stayed in this band.


The show was good and bad. It was at somebody's house--A really redneck, hick kind of party.


But the important part is, after enough alcohol was consumed, some people started dancing to the music--One very hot girl, in particular.


Man, I didn't realize how much leverage being 'in the band' gives you. She started the conversation with me, put her arm around my shoulder, etc.

When it was time to go, I wasn't sure how old she was so I took my phone out of my pocket and said

Me: "Hey, I don't know if you're in high school or not, but--"

Her: "I'm legal."

Then she took the phone out of my hand and put her number in it.


I haven't felt so pumped up in a long time. I had a hard time falling asleep after that I was so excited.


I'm going to call her tonight. Gosh, I don't feel confident anymore though. I'm pretty nervous. Where the hell am I going to take her on a date?

 

[Huffman]

This is what some people like to call "situational confidence" - extremely powerful and also addictive.
You should try out "The Blueprint Decoded" some time - they're really getting down on this stuff in particular.

 

[FireOnTheMountain]

This is the first update to this thread in a long time. I'm getting ready to make another big effort at this, and when I do I think I'll make a new thread.


Today, I was in the check out line at Wal Mart.

The cashier was a black woman who looked about the same age as me. She had a pretty face, her waist was small and her boobs were huge. I usually don't get 'excited' during or before approaches, but I got a boner from looking at her while I was in line.

I confess that I have a hard time approaching women whom I percieve as being outside of my own culture. This can be race, income level, or just social background. Not because I dislike them or am prejudiced, but because I fear that they will be more likely to reject me. So to try and help with that problem, I decided right away that I would ask this girl for her phone number.


After paying for the grocieries, she said a pretty routine sounding 'Thank you, have a good night.'

Me: "Hey, I know it's a weird for me to ask this straight off, but I know you're busy and I have to get going...'

She looked at me curiously.

Me: "...But I just have to ask. Why don't you give me your phone number?"

Her: "Oh, no. I have a boyfriend." She said this in a friendly way with a genuine smile--I don't think she was BSing like girls sometimes do.

Me: "That's okay. I don't get jealous"(I blatently stole this from someone elses thread.

Her: "Oh, I can't. I have a boyfriend. That was really cute, though."


It probably doesn't come through just in text, but she seemed really surprised, and I also think pretty flattered. Her mood totally changed from going-through-the-Wal-Mart motions to a genuine smile and inflection in her voice.




s I always do after asking a girl for her number, I felt awesome afterward. I don't know why this is, but I always feel great.