Going out tonight - Advice Needed!

[Valei]

Hey guys this is my first post on Sosuave.com and I have to say this site has really helped me out. A few years ago I didn't have nearly as much confidence as I do now and it's all thanks to tips provided here.

Lately I've been going out down town to the local bar and club scene but I haven't had much success with approaches. I made a few but most of them were simple conversations that didn't really go anywhere. Tonight I'm going to try and change that. I'm going to focus on relaxing and having a good time, while at the same time staying cool and confident to make more interesting approaches. If you guys have any helpful tips for some one just starting out at bars, please post up!

 

[DJArlington]

it's easy man, no biggie.

you gotta read the bible a little bit. i would basically just up to the chick, say hi, say something about the surrounding environment and her, try to be really observant and try to tie them together. i know this is hard but just give it a shot, it works better at places OTHER then bars. after some small talk (where is she from etc.) then you gotta get funny man. women dig humor and above all else confidence and power. if you don't have the power not to worry just act confident, be reassured in who you are. you are the man, love yourself like the man, BE the man. so when you are trying to be funny, tell her a stupid joke, just be goofy. don't try to hide the fact that like her, BE masculine. it's all apart of BEING a REAL man.

peace and let me know how it goes.

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

are you going alone?

 

[Valei]

Hey guys I'm back and things went okay. I ended up approaching 2 girls and one approached me. The first girl rolled her eyes at me when asked her how she was doing and the second girl refused to make eye conact with me and was probably very shy. The last chick was probably a bit drunk but she was cute and it was pretty funny. I was relaxed the entire time I was there and had a great time. I went with one of my buddy's by the way and I know a few locals, so I had people to talk to.

There are a few things I noticed though while I was out. Firstly, how loud it is in most bars at times it seemed kind of stupid to try and talk to some chick that can barely here you. Secondly, the bar was packed and it was even pretty hard to dance... How do you guys over come these factors? I'm going to start reading the DJ bible now. Thanks again for the adice guys!

 

[SuperAlbert]

Hey guys I'm back and things went okay. I ended up approaching 2 girls and one approached me. The first girl rolled her eyes at me when asked her how she was doing and the second girl refused to make eye conact with me and was probably very shy. The last chick was probably a bit drunk but she was cute and it was pretty funny. I was relaxed the entire time I was there and had a great time. I went with one of my buddy's by the way and I know a few locals, so I had people to talk to.

There are a few things I noticed though while I was out. Firstly, how loud it is in most bars at times it seemed kind of stupid to try and talk to some chick that can barely here you. Secondly, the bar was packed and it was even pretty hard to dance... How do you guys over come these factors? I'm going to start reading the DJ bible now. Thanks again for the adice guys!

Good job on the approaches. The first few are just warmups and you did pretty well already. Just try to remember that your purpose is to enjoy yourself and don't think too much of the consequences.

Bars are loud but you can use that to your advantage. The louder it is, the closer you can get with the girl physically. I've seen from time to time when a guy would talk to a girl and he would be shouting in her ears. No one wants to be yelled at and his approach is all wrong. I recommend to talk in a normal tone of voice close to her ears and that should be enough for her to understand. This gives you a chance to be up CLOSE to her and opens up a chance for you to Kino and all that.

For dancing, it's all about the bump and grind baby! Move your way in and work your way to holding her hips. She'll let you know your limits so keep pushing. Let her FEEL your manhood if you get my drift.

Good luck! Hope this helps!