"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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going for kiss in club setting

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Sometimes I'll meet a girl in a club and she'll be into me. We'd hang out for thirty minutes to an hour and we'd embrace, hold hands, etc. It was on between me and her and I'd go for the kiss. Sometimes she'll be receptive to the kiss and other times she won't.

Isn't it better to go for the kiss? Because if you don't, doesn't it show to some degree that you don't have the balls to initiate it?

There are girls out there who are in fact into you, but would not be receptive to the kiss; especially to some guy she's known for only an hour.

So my questions are:

If you hit it off with a girl at a club, do you always go for the kiss?

If she rejects the kiss, how do you handle it?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you notice that she's into you , you can try Mystery's kissclose. That way the possible rejection won't matter. You will still have the balance in the pickup.

But i think the best way to get a kiss close is to isolate her. Get her away from the people she might not want to see her kissing you. Ask if she wants to go out and get some air, or go to another bar or even just another room in the club. If you have the girl just the two of you, it's easy as hell.
 

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Originally posted by \O/
If you notice that she's into you , you can try Mystery's kissclose. That way the possible rejection won't matter. You will still have the balance in the pickup.

But i think the best way to get a kiss close is to isolate her. Get her away from the people she might not want to see her kissing you. Ask if she wants to go out and get some air, or go to another bar or even just another room in the club. If you have the girl just the two of you, it's easy as hell.
I've never had issues if you are on the dancefloor when you go to kiss her....

What is mystery's kissclose anyway?
 

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Originally posted by So pimp its scary
I've never had issues if you are on the dancefloor when you go to kiss her....

What is mystery's kissclose anyway?
Not all girls are like that. Some don't care if you kiss her infront of her bf even. But some chicks (atleast from my experiences) have issues when it comes to that. Sometimes they want to kiss you, but don't want their friends to see. ASD i guess..

Mystery's kissclose:

When you would normally feel that you could get away with the kiss close, but aren't totally sure, it's a way to get around it without getting the turned cheek.
You simply asks her "Do you want to kiss me"? I know it sounds AFC'ish and kinda counter-intuitive but it's all about presentation. Be ****y about it, but also a bit on the serious note so that she won't think you're just messing with her.

If she says "Yes", then great. Lean in for the kiss.

If she says "Maybe" or "I don't know". You tell her "Let's find out, and lean in for the kiss.

If she says "No", reply with "I didn't say you could. It just looked like you had something on your mind".

Fool-proof.

I've tried it a few times, but sometimes it gives me an awkward feeling. Like it's pretty corny. Routines are often corny, but for some reason they work. I prefer just going for it when i feel she's ready. If i get the cheek, then no biggie. I don't take rejections personally anymore.
 

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Originally posted by john_1234
Sometimes I'll meet a girl in a club and she'll be into me. We'd hang out for thirty minutes to an hour and we'd embrace, hold hands, etc. It was on between me and her and I'd go for the kiss. Sometimes she'll be receptive to the kiss and other times she won't.

Isn't it better to go for the kiss? Because if you don't, doesn't it show to some degree that you don't have the balls to initiate it?

There are girls out there who are in fact into you, but would not be receptive to the kiss; especially to some guy she's known for only an hour.

So my questions are:

If you hit it off with a girl at a club, do you always go for the kiss?

If she rejects the kiss, how do you handle it?
It's very easy to tell if a girl wants to kiss you.

Get close to her and look at her eyes.

or

Gauge her interest level by kino.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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