"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Giving A College Hottie My Number.

PimpOfTheSouth

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I tried a reverse approach too a routine I normally do. I cold approached a hottie at school last thursday and gave her my digits. This girl texted me an hour and a half after I initially gave it to her.

We texted for a bit and she told me her major and what kind of stuff she did work, school etc..

I ended the texting first and then proceeded to initiate contact two days later and she responed att work.. Well she didnt text me back later and neither did I. Its been 4 days since I met her and I don't want to blow it.

What is some advice yall could give me on where too go from here and what you would do in this situation?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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kingsam

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my advice is not to do that in the future as she is totally in control with this situation (you giving her your no), why didnt you get hers as well ?
so she sent you a mesage but you should have got her to meet up and see you.

why couldnt you talk to her face to face rather than text, its hard to be mr smooth, and mr C+F over text....

PimpOfTheSouth said:
I ended the texting first and then proceeded to initiate contact two days later and she responed att work.. Well she didnt text me back later and neither did I. Its been 4 days since I met her and I don't want to blow it.
she most likely got bored with you, texting covno's can be boring,
 

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I agree with Kingsam:

-I'd say always get her number. Don't give her your number unless she gives you her number first. Usually, I will ask a girl for her number, then call it ON THE SPOT. If her phone rings, her reward is my number. If her phone does not ring, then I know she gave me a fake and I NEXT her.

-Texting is good for keeping in touch or sharing a spur-of-the-moment joke. Texting is not good for long conversations. As Kingsam said, take her out on a date and have the conversation there.
 

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You should have busted her balls for texting you so quick but made it sound like a joke. Have fun with the texts at first... Don't go into "interview mode" with texts. Leave that sh1t for face to face contact.

Do you guys even read the DJ bible anymore? lol
 

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TizZle said:
Do you guys even read the DJ bible anymore? lol
I didn't even know it existed for a while. Then I looked it up on Google and found it. It wasn't until about 3-4 months later before I found out that it was at the bottom of the site. They should put it up top somewhere, in big letters.

And besides, people want the quick fix. Scrubs aren't gonna read all of that. Not until they see that the quick fix doesn't work.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i dont see the problem in him giving her his number. she texted first didnt she? (which is rare to me)
 

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You know, when your breath passes through your larynx, you can train it to vibrate your vocal chords. This vibration is used by many people as a means of communication...they call it "speech" or "talking". It is a much richer form of communication than simply typing things out, as it allows you to express things like feelings and communicate on a more subtle level.

In fact, the texting devices you carry around...they're capable of transmitting these "talking" vibrations by turning them into magnetic pulses and digital signals and sending them through the air to the person you want to communicate with.

If you want to seduce women, you really should practice this.
 

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Giving her my number was purely experimental. She texted me back rather quickly in which even I was surprised. She initiated contact through texting though and her first text was "What Is Up!!!"

The girl clearly has some form of interest.
 

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Don't text, talk to her in person or on the phone.
 

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squirrels said:
You know, when your breath passes through your larynx, you can train it to vibrate your vocal chords. This vibration is used by many people as a means of communication...they call it "speech" or "talking". It is a much richer form of communication than simply typing things out, as it allows you to express things like feelings and communicate on a more subtle level.

In fact, the texting devices you carry around...they're capable of transmitting these "talking" vibrations by turning them into magnetic pulses and digital signals and sending them through the air to the person you want to communicate with.

If you want to seduce women, you really should practice this.
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OP, are you the girl's f*cking girlfriend? Texting all the time? How masculine is it to be holding a little piece of plastic punching buttons to a girl? When has ANYTHING good ever come out of texting? Call her up while the iron is hot.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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squirrels said:
You know, when your breath passes through your larynx, you can train it to vibrate your vocal chords. This vibration is used by many people as a means of communication...they call it "speech" or "talking". It is a much richer form of communication than simply typing things out, as it allows you to express things like feelings and communicate on a more subtle level.

In fact, the texting devices you carry around...they're capable of transmitting these "talking" vibrations by turning them into magnetic pulses and digital signals and sending them through the air to the person you want to communicate with.

If you want to seduce women, you really should practice this.
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OP, are you the girl's f*cking girlfriend? Texting all the time? How masculine is it to be holding a little piece of plastic punching buttons to a girl? When has ANYTHING good ever come out of texting? Call her up while the iron is hot.
 

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So I found out that I have a service problem with my phone and my texts really havent been going through to anybody.

This girl straight up told me "I just got out of a year and a half relationship cause he was cheatin ha im just chillin and not looking for anything"

But this girl took my number without hesitation and likes to initiate contact with me, What Gives?

Do I pursue this?
 

Diaforetikos

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OP, are you the girl's f*cking girlfriend? Texting all the time? How masculine is it to be holding a little piece of plastic punching buttons to a girl? When has ANYTHING good ever come out of texting? Call her up while the iron is hot.
Gin Rummy said it the best: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QCa9f8cPRbk
 
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