"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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give this date a chance?

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Hey guys. I met this girl a few years ago, and we lost contact due to being busy. Genuinely, I was busy. I don't know about her. Every time she suggested we meet up, I had to decline. Finally, I guess she had it or something and started mentioning she was interested in someone she had met, talking about the person to me, what they were like, how much attention the person spends w/ her. (boring) I was out w/ "her" and did not want to hear about all that. I let her go on for about 5 mins., and then politely excused myself. NEXT. I disappear from her life for 1/2 year.

We recently bumped into a local bookstore, and she asked me why I had deleted my email account, & why she wasn't able to call me on my phone. Wondering if I was mad, and she apologized if she had done anything wrong. I told her I was busy and that we were cool.

After some fluff chit-chat, I told her "it was nice seeing you again." Trying to hint that I'd like to go back to my reading. She just sat there next to me and grabbed a book for herself from the shelf in front of me. I spent a few hours there. It was my book reading day, and she just stayed the whole time. I pretty much felt her looking at me every now and then. This girl is really cute/attractive and usually does not play games or flake.

As I got up to leave, I told her I was leaving for the day. She asked me where, and I said home. She then proceeded to ask me if I had anything planned for the rest of the day, and if we could go somewhere. I told her I wanted to just chill at home, give my dogs a haircut and bath. I don't want to go out anywhere for the day. She responded with an "oh."

Anyway, she text me that same night to let her know whenever I'm free and would spend some time with her. I usually don't have much time to spend with this girl, because I'm working on my business and studies. I'm not sure if she's going to be able to handle that without going "so and so spends more time with her" again. :nervous: I hate that sh*t!

But man, cute girl... very much my type physically. Confident. Family-oriented. High achiever. Can take jokes and can shoot one right back. If only, she didn't get all try all tactics to get me to spend more time w/ her and just respect that I don't throw all my time to a girl.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Deacon

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I'd hit it.
 
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