Give me your opinion on this flake

[Joshski]

Sup everyone,

Really pretty girl in one of my classes, started talking to her maybe two weeks ago or so. After class, I caught up with her and asked her to lunch. Conversation went a little like this.

Me: Hey, so you're working the men's basketball game Saturday?
Her: Yep, you too right?
Me: Yeah. What are you doing before the game?
Her: I don't think anything.
Me: Do you wanna get lunch beforehand?
Her: What time do we have to be there?
Me: 1
Her: Sure
Me: Ok, great, can I get your #?
Her: Yeah its ###-###-####

That was Wednesday afternoon.

Texted her Saturday morning around 10 or so.

Me: Hey, you still down for lunch around 12:30 or so?
Her: Hi sorry I have an appointment to look at apartments so I'm gonna be crunched for time before the game!
Me: Ok no problem

This happened last Saturday. Talked to her a little bit at the game, kept it to the hi/how are you/what's up. no mention of our missed lunch meeting.

Some of my friends say I should try again in a little bit, I'm leaning towards not.

Some things to note, we sit in a round, lecture-style room for a class we have together. We sit at opposite sides, but I often notice that she crosses her legs and points them directly at me. She does the same thing before class. I was sitting down because there is a class before ours. She was standing up a couple feet away from me and her feet were again pointed at me. Also, at work she laughs at things I say even though they aren't funny.

The fact that she didn't ask for a raincheck makes me want to move on, but these other signs and my friends want me to try once more. Thoughts?

 

[usernamedox11]

Who cares how the hell she crosses her legs and what she points at you? Oh, it's a IOI?! Doesn't mean **** unless she's willing to hang out with you.

What I would do is just act like you don't notice her and that she doesn't exist in class. Try not to speak to her. See if she initiates conversation, and if she does, ask her to hang out. If she doesn't initiate a convo after some time, try starting a convo with her before class and ask her if she wants to hang out. If she makes an excuse or flakes, forget about her.

I'm no guru. That's just how I'd play it.

 

[Joshski]

Who cares how the hell she crosses her legs and what she points at you? Oh, it's a IOI?! Doesn't mean **** unless she's willing to hang out with you.

What I would do is just act like you don't notice her and that she doesn't exist in class. Try not to speak to her. See if she initiates conversation, and if she does, ask her to hang out. If she doesn't initiate a convo after some time, try starting a convo with her before class and ask her if she wants to hang out. If she makes an excuse or flakes, forget about her.

I'm no guru. That's just how I'd play it.

That's pretty much what I've been doing. In cases like at work when we must talk, we do, but I don't initiate anything otherwise.

Sounds like solid advice, thanks man, I appreciate it.

 

[the_stig]

I'd just leave it be. She knows you're interested, and will reciprocate the interest if she feels the same.

If this was a stranger whom you'd never see again, I'd say give it another shot, what's to lose? But this is a girl you have a class with. Don't make things awkward and be that guy who can't take a hint. Continue to be friendly and polite as if her flake didn't phase you, but balls is in her court at this point.

 

[nismo-4]

Joshski! Judge nismo is gonna enlighten you.

With post # 2,900!!!

Here's the deal. She knows your interest. She's showing her interest (well, lack thereof) by flaking on you with no counter offer. I hate to break it to you, but your princess is in another castle.

Do you think she'd be busy if this were Brad Pitt or (insert any popular celebrity or athlete or male model here)? She wouldn't be. The thing is, she sees she has better options, so she gave you a lame excuse. I have a zero tolerance for female bullsh*t, and you should too. I call girls out on their flaking and show them I don't buy their lies. If they don't come around, they are erased and replaced. Can you erase and replace a girl with no letup? At least erase if you can't replace immediately!

Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. They won't pull this "all talk, no action" bullsh*t. They'll find a way to see you. They'll drill through a mountain in an electric storm to see you. If any prospect you're going after is giving you excuses, or is "all talk, no action", or gives mixed (negative) signals, she is an attention wh0re. Get rid of her ass right there, no questions asked.

Since she has control of the whole situation, just kick her ass to the curb. Extra points if you are seen with a better looking chick. That's my ruling.

Case closed.

 

[mustfirstregister]

i WOUldn't even bother to say "ok, np". I will go radio silence. If see her again will wait for her to initiate convo.

 

[Maximus Rex]

Sup everyone,

Really pretty girl in one of my classes, started talking to her maybe two weeks ago or so. After class, I caught up with her and asked her to lunch. Conversation went a little like this.

Her: I don't think anything.
Me: Do you wanna get lunch beforehand?

STRIKE ONE! You ASKED some random female on Wednesday that only knows you from class to set some time aside for you on Saturday. You said yourself that she's pretty, so what makes you think that you offer is the only one she's going get from Wednesday to Saturday, you have strike when the iron is hot and escalate while you have these b*tches' attention. In short, stop making dates to go on dates.

Me: Ok, great, can I get your #?
Her: Yeah its ###-###-####

STRIKE TWO! As you have found out, numbers mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! What you should have did was bounced her to another location, then number closed, it would have solidified the number. Again, stop asking b*tches for sh*t

Me: Hey, you still down for lunch around 12:30 or so?

STRIKE THREE, YOU'RE OUT! This was very beta, very weak, and it projected a lack of confidence on your part. Plus you didn't have definite plans.

Here's what you need to do.

1) Find InstaDate Locations

As you're going about your daily business next week, ask yourself, "If I were to meet a chick RIGHT NOW, we hit it off, were would I take her? Be on the look out for your Stone Cold Creamerys, coffee shops, bars, cheap eateries etc. Make a list of the places and log them into your memory banks.

2)Stop Making Dates to go on Dates

Pretty, attractive women have sh*t going on their lives, family, school, jobs and namely other mutaf*ckas trying holla, and as you've clearly experienced they're NOTORIOUS for their capricious natures. This is also something you log and put into your memory banks, STRIKE WHILE THE IRON IS HOT! You want to take her out anyway, so why not do it while you have her RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU? If you've built enough rapport, she'll readily agree. If not, take her number or do what AJ does and give her yours and wait for her to call.

3) Stop Asking B*tches for Sh*t!

What sounds better:

Joshski'sl Conversation

Me: Hey, so you're working the men's basketball game Saturday?
Her: Yep, you too right?
Me: Yeah. What are you doing before the game?
Her: I don't think anything.
Me: Do you wanna get lunch beforehand?
Her: What time do we have to be there?
Me: 1
Her: Sure
Me: Ok, great, can I get your #?
Her: Yeah its ###-###-####

Rex's Conversation

Rex: Hey, so you're working the men's basketball game Saturday?

Her: Yep, you too right?

Me: Yeah. Let me ask you something, I did a Power point on "Why Hoes Choose Pimps? for sociology class and a chick walked out on it, do you find that topic offensive

Or

Are you cooking for Thanksgiving?

or

Are you going to take pictures with Santa Claus?

or

Where Fred, Daphane and Velma having threesomes in the Mystery Machine?

or anything that sparks a conversation. This has been my problem of late, I haven't build enough rapport with these and I've skipping steps. From what you said, you skipped steps before the number close. After you got her talking, laughing and that ole kind of sh*t then you say...

Rex: I'm going to Cold Stone, COME with me.[/i]

She'll either say "yes," or "no." If she says no you'll know that refusal is an unequivocal rejection of your advances or she legitimately has something else to do. Whether to try again...Rex is very prideful and narcissistic individual though my skill level at this sh*t is far where it needs and should be, Rex feels that a chicks needs to be honored, humbled, and faltered that he though she was worthy enough to be allowed the privilege of some one-on-one time with him. For chick not to realize this is a flaw in her character and an extreme lapse in her judgment to refuse this once in a lifetime opportunity.