Give her a chance, or Not?

[CORVETTE06]

I got out of a horrible relationship 6 months ago. Found out she cheated on me, and caught an STD (it is gone now).

I made a promise to myself never to date a girl who has red flags, and risk getting another STD. (Which is hard because many people have STD)

I found a new girl, a few years older than me. I've known her for a month now, and felt like she is my soul mate. We had many great times out, and share many similarities. However, I found out that she had a disturbing past. She got raped, and was in an abusive relationship for 3 years (He hit her and cheated on her - even had babies with other women). Also, she is white and had sex & relationships with black men (It doesn't matter that they are black, I am not trying to be racist. But according to statistics, STD risk is higher)

Should I give her a chance? She said she has been tested for STDS and has none. But I am worried about the future if I should marry her. Could her past lead to problems?

 

[Mex]

Just the fact that she stayed in an abusive relationship with a dude that had other babies should tell you she is not marriage material. If you want to bang her, and she says shes clean, then press your luck, you know her better than us.

By the way, I am assuming that her bf had babies with other girls while in a relationship with this one. But even if thats not the case, it doesnt really change anything. But caution, she sounds like a girl that will hold on to any guy that will make her feel good in any way so sleeping with her might purchase you a stalker.

 

[CORVETTE06]

thank you for your advice.

i only dated her a month, i said i need more time. she said she loves me and will wait forever... i kinda told her i loved her too- its how i felt for her at the moment ( i know i am being an AFC)

she is either my soul mate or my stalker.

 

[Julius_Seizeher]

Dude, you don't have to be pc for fear of being called a wacist here. She's a wh0re and you know it, leave her in her wallow. Time to move on

 

[Bluntmaster]

She said she has been tested for STDS and has none.

Ofcourse she said she was tested. She probably has never really been tested. They all say that.

 

[vatoloco]

I found a new girl, a few years older than me. I've known her for a month now, and felt like she is my soul mate.

Oh boy, this won't end well...

 

[romangod]

The minute a man says "soul mate" his days are numbered.


Cheers!

 

[squirrels]

It's sad to say, but there are many female rape VICTIMS but few rape SURVIVORS.

I would proceed with extreme caution. The first time she breaks down into tears during intimacy because of her past, it's time to consider moving on. Remember...YOU did not rape her. You should not have to suffer her anguish because she is too weak-willed to overcome it and carry on. I'm not saying she doesn't deserve pity, but that's another story entirely.