"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ive caught several girls staring at me for a prolonged period of time. most of the time they are HB 8-10. However after i catch them staring at me i dont know what to do.

Do i avoid their gaze and look cool, like i dont know what they are doing. Do i keep staring at them, only to make the situation seem awkward, or do i say something, and if i do, then what do i say?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SMILE. If you can manage to throw in a "Hi" then more points for you.
 

HandyAndy

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Same problem here! I always catch girls glancing and groups of girls staring at me, they are all showing interest but I dont talk to them! Any ideas for the both of us?
 

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When a very pretty girl stare at me, I notice in the corner of my eyes but I am somehow afraid of looking back to them. I think this is a natural affect to the AFCs. You are right, this had been a issue for me, I need help too
 

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i dunno whose line this is buh walk up to them and say "If u keep staring at me like that, im gonna fall in love"
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The line above is a bit leading - shows too much interest in a cold approach. Just casually approach the girl and say hi and start a conversation.

If she's looking at you, she must be interested. Let her know that as well as the looks, you have a very charismatic and confident personality. Get that number close, and you're in. ;)
 

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i agree with bmxcetera, smiling and starting a conversation is the best way to go, even if the girls are shy
 

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And often you don't even have to approach them! If you catch girls staring at you for a while, just shoot your best smile at them and they are often already "opened."

This worked for me tonight actually when I went out.
 

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maybe your fly is down or you have a hardcore booger hanging?
 

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Back when I started HS, I applied my learnings when going from class to class in the hallways and would look into girls eyes and hold the eye-contact just a second longer and knew I was confident enough when even the HOT ones started to break eye-contact 1st. This and the combination of my first ever lifting-routine skyrocketed my testosterone and got me into trouble sometimes, but no worries, at-least I could hold my head up w/confidence when competing in the shot put and most importantly, EVERYWHERE else.

I used to golf back then and I discovered a secret of the tour pros: "Using butterflies and fear to their advantage." When a pro golfer lines up their shot on the teebox, they may get butterflies in the stomach, but they have rewired the associated fear and turned it into a positive energy that could produce killer shot after shot in front of increasingly-bigger crowds surrounding them each week! I recall Geoff Ogilvy as saying: "I know it sounds stupid, but after u hit a good shot, tell yourself you hit a good shot and your mind will ensue." If they do get butterflies, they subside throughout the round but keep in mind this forces them to relax and thus becomes the norm earlier and earlier throughout subsequent rounds. So imagine yourself splitting the fairway next time.

I seldomly feel these butterflies now. Here I am mid-way through my undergraduate education, and I still get the looks/stares but know they're a GOOD thing. As of lately, I get cute & hot ones randomly coming out of nowhere and even smiling at ME. Knowing that I can hold my own, I don't let it take me by surprise, but I smile back and say "hey" to them. THIS IS MY AURA reeling them in and it's more dialed in than Tiger's short-game.

Standing on the sill of an airplane exit at 13,500 feet and staring down at the earth through the clouds briefly before diving down failed to fill me w/butterflies. When I find something that does succeed @ this task, I will only know of one way in which I shall proceed...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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