Girls as Friends?

[Voice]

I have a question for the true DJs on this forum. What's your opinions on having girls as friends?

I don't know if it's just me, but after being bafc for most of my life and quiet, my opinions on girls totally changed. I no longer put girls on pedestals, rather I've come to find girls pretty much inferior. I don't know if this is just natural progression or wrong, but it's just the way I think now. Reasons being: They rarely make me laugh unlike my guy friends. I can't talk to them about most things I'm interested in (sports etc.). I can see right through most of the girls I used to think were hot and popular before, now all I see are insecure, shallow girls who only get by with their looks. I now know how to knock these girls off their pedestals and create attraction, but I'm disappointed when finding out how boring these girls really are. Girls are no longer a mystery. After being on this website, reading pook and other articles, I went from not understanding girls at all to almost knowing why they do everything.

Is there something wrong with me, or are girls really not worth being friends with? It seems like I almost don't know how to be friends with girls, because I instantly go into attract mode when talking to a girl I find attractive. If not, I don't even attempt to talk to them. Girls either think I'm quiet or cold, or totally think I'm hot. I see other dudes in my dorm hanging out with random girls and I'm just like why? I'm not a full DJ yet by any means. I turn it on at times, but the DJ is not fully part of my personality yet. Is this just bitterness, or are girls really not worth the time unless you want to fvck them? This issue is really hurting my attempt to be a part of a social circle in my dorm.

BTW, I already been with a girl that's in this circle, and she's closer to most of the people in it then I am. She's not too fond of me anymore and I'm afraid this will hurt my chances.

 

[Sandow]

Yes, you should be friends with girls even if you don't want to fvck em. One, girls talk amongst other girls. Yeah your not attracted to Sara, but her friends are hot. And If your that weird, cold person that doesn't talk to anyone, you know Sara ain't going to put in a good word for you. Remember, reputation is prettybig to girls, you sorta wanna be that guys who EVERYONE talks good about. So, be warm to everyone. Even if there are girls that are ugly, be charming to them, so what if they like you, it can only help you. Again, you wanna be the guy who all the girls like.

Two, being a DJ is just about fvcking girls that you think are hot. You want to build on every aspect of your personality. What helps you with girls, may also help you with other things in life too. Try to improve on everything, no matter what it may be.

So, personally, I like to befriend people I respect, and that may be ugly chicks. So many times I have hooked up with my "friends" friends. And all the hard work is already done! She has only heard good things about me! So easy

 

[brian123]

I've met so many girls through friends Ive had. There are numerous girls I have no attraction to, but are cool people. So why not be friends?

If you meet a hot girl and want to bang her, but just 'try to be friends" then that is the wrong path.

 

[Snow Plowman]

Many people fall into the trap of "Pickup Mode" as if it's a light switch...Don't fall into this, I know guys who are working on being able to talk to chicks who are friend's of friends...In there school...at a private party, etc...Because to them they have THEMSELVES and there PU Persona.

To me it's more of a lifestyle of having women in abundance. It should be normal for you to have female friends who are COOL. If you don't find them funny and stuff, I wouldn't really say "Be there friend".

It's really preference as I prefer to have a social circle with AWESOME chicks, which as a side effect I have opportunities with all there hot friends. To me it's all a lifestyle...On the other hand I know guys who don't really have friends and just go out and pull chicks.

Ain't nothing better than having a blast with a bunch of chicks and COOL guys...then going home and having sex with a chick your attracted too at the end of the night.

 

[The Matador]

My friend and I were just talking about this.

As long as you can maintain it , you can never have too big a social circle. Knowing people, or making it seem like you know people, is very important . Imagine showing up to a party and five girls you know all run up and hug you. You won't be getting any from any of them, but it looks good. It's also a great ego boost.

A sure fired way to creep girls out is too only acknowledged girls when you want to get get with them.

 

[sodbuster]

Unfortunately,half of the population is female and only about 5% of the total population is doable[the rest-married,old ugly or too young]. In the future, you will have to sell/work with everyone. How will you be successful if you are eliminating 47% of the total population? You don't have to have to be best buds,but you need to be able to talk to them.

Broaden your horizons. If all you talk about is sports and teen boy stuff-you'd bore the hell out of me. I wouldn't be rude about it,but I wouldn't be around much. When One of my better friends and I hang out, we talk about: the stock market,the economy,his hotel purchase in South Padre,my office,his 15th century painting he just purchased,my latest land deal,his latest trip to China,hunting,our kids etc.Generally skip religion and politics.

One of his favorite sayings is"we should be happy there are so many people out there willing to settle-less competition for us". If you can't or won't deal with women unless you want to do the nasty;you will never be competition.Remember,money feeds,clothes and shelters you-sex amuses you. You've placed too much importance on amusement[sex and hanging with the boys]and not enough on improvement[not always easy dealing with women,but learn][or learn to control your boredom when talking to them]

 

[Voice]

Broaden your horizons. If all you talk about is sports and teen boy stuff-you'd bore the hell out of me. I wouldn't be rude about it,but I wouldn't be around much. When One of my better friends and I hang out, we talk about: the stock market,the economy,his hotel purchase in South Padre,my office,his 15th century painting he just purchased,my latest land deal,his latest trip to China,hunting,our kids etc.Generally skip religion and politics.

See this is the thing. I do have pretty broad horizons for my age, sports was just one example of something girls can't talk about. Most of the time I can only talk to my smart friends about most of the stuff I'm interested in. Smart GUY friends. Girls on the other hand talk about drama and other **** I really don't care about. When I do talk to girls I talk about funny subjects that keep them laughing. This naturally attracts them. I don't know what else to talk about with girls. I'm never serious or talk about philosophy with them because it would bore the crap out of them. I avoid drama and gossip at all costs, and when girls get together in groups forget it. The womanesse article by pook says it all about that. I just have a hard time making friends with girls without attracting them. I'm almost scared of attracting girls I don't want to attract. This is why I have such a hard time making friends with girls.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Sometimes you can be friends with benefits or fvck buddys. It's happend to me a couple times. Start out as friends but, kind of have the attraction between us.

Like Snow Plowman said; she will have friends you can meet. Then, you meet their friends and have another social circe to be with. Or when you hit on the girls their friends will be jealous and want more of your attention and who knows the possibilities.

 

[sodbuster]

Just tell her you love her like a sister[no sex], Kind of the friend zone for women- game over. As you get older, more will be tied down and won't be actively looking,so you won't have that issue. Knowing what I know now, if I could go back to 20, even Viagra wouldn't be enough to keep all the women I'd attract. Be like a BB gun in a battle with Panzers.

But, I would attract them all- a woman interested in you will do you alot of favors,