Girls and their mothers

[Jariel]

Ok, a short and simple question here. I am starting to worry that my girlfriend may eventually turn into her mother and, trust me, that is not a good thing!

They are particularly close (like best friends) and I feel that her mother has a lot of influence over her and restricts her independence.

Do you guys think it is common for girls to end up like their mothers?

 

[lee36044]

Ok, a short and simple question here. I am starting to worry that my girlfriend may eventually turn into her mother and, trust me, that is not a good thing!

They are particularly close (like best friends) and I feel that her mother has a lot of influence over her and restricts her independence.

Do you guys think it is common for girls to end up like their mothers?

It's either that or they fight very hard to be total opposites. Trust your instincts! You must have some reason for the worry. And to be able to ask the question shows you also know there is little that you can do to change that path if it is happening

Regards

 

[RedPill]

They are particularly close (like best friends) and I feel that her mother has a lot of influence over her and restricts her independence.

As you've described it, the Mom Rule is in full effect. The power of seeing the future has been given to you. Consider yourself blessed.

The Mom Rule: When a mother and daughter are very close to each other, the daughter will inevitably turn into the mother. It's possible that this has been going on for many generations in their family. Usually this is bad, unless the mom is smokin' hot with a great personality. Even then, whatever dude marries her is basically marrying the mom too (and sometimes the grandma as well).

 

[Hitman10000]

Ehhh somewhat.

1. Pay attention to how her mother acts.

Your girl will share 50-75% of how her mother deals with situations. If your girl tells you that her mother screams at her husband/son for their weaknesses. Expect your girl to have lower opinion of the male species, also expect your girl to see you in a darker light. A way to get around this is to be responsible, honest, a man who can stand up to her compared to her father/brother.

2. Pay attention to how she and her mother interact.

If her mother and your girl are close, you will unfortunately be dating both of them. Note when I say close, i do not mean a mother calling the girl and seeing where they are/ie. controlling the daughter. I mean close as in sharing ideas, having conversations. In other words if your girl tells you how her mother is and what she says more than likely your girl will talk about you to her mother. If you're the player type, RUN. But if you're cool about this, then stay put but expect yourself to be HONEST as possible.

 

[Jariel]

Thanks for the feedback guys.

Her mother is a nice enough woman and I like her, but she is so fvcking lazy! She is very overweight and just sits on her ass in front of the TV all the time and seems to blame other people. I don't want my girlfriend becoming like that!

Her parents' marriage is fvcked up too mainly because her mother was so demanding and wanted her husband to fit in with her plans - marriage, kids, mortgage etc - when he didn't want to. I get the impression she's more dominant and he was weak minded. This is something I have in my favour and something I have made clear to my girlfriend. I have told her I'm not willing to fall in with her plans and if she wants a future with me, it has to be based on compromise.

Fortunately my girlfriend vows to avoid the same mistakes as her mother and her mother encourages her positively in this regard. I do sometimes feel like her mother is a 3rd person in our relationship as she often asks to come along with my girlfriend and I when we go out. I made it clear that I'm not happy with that arrangement so it's not a problem now.

I do want a future with her, but I do fear her changing for the worse. Thankfully I've stood upto her and refuse to be controlled, otherwise I could see things heading the same was as her parents.

Anyway, thanks guys for the replies. I will keep what you each said in mind and exercise caution!

 

[Deep Dish]

Ok, a short and simple question here. I am starting to worry that my girlfriend may eventually turn into her mother and, trust me, that is not a good thing!

They are particularly close (like best friends) and I feel that her mother has a lot of influence over her and restricts her independence.

Do you guys think it is common for girls to end up like their mothers?

99.9% of people will turn into their parents. It's so exceedingly rare to find an exception that we can say human nature is almost insurmountable.