"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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Well, i am going to ask you for some advice. Tommorrow evening, i will be out for a drink with my girlfriend and a group of her friends. I am bringing along one of my friends. Is there any advice that any of you have from having been in this situation before.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by JSH
Well, i am going to ask you for some advice. Tommorrow evening, i will be out for a drink with my girlfriend and a group of her friends. I am bringing along one of my friends. Is there any advice that any of you have from having been in this situation before.
Your girlfriend's friends are going to be blocking...your friend can take out 1-2 of them but the rest of them will just be in the way of you and your girl having a fun time.
 
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man don't get too involved with that circle of friends and thats the best advice I can give to you
 

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You and your girlfriend are in a relationship. The time you spend together is yours alone. Therefore, it is best to decline situations where you and your girlfriend are surrounded by either her ****blocking friends, or your assgrabbing guys(unless you're really tight with them).

So, to make it easy, don't go. What will happen is that they'll judge you and then try to talk your girl into NOT going out with you...not because there is anything wrong with you, but because they're jealous little eye-clawers. This is high school, man. It doesn't work like the real world.
 

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1. Always avoid her 'girlfriends': getting involved with your girlfriend's b1tchy, gossipy female friends is never a good thing. Always keep a distance to make sure you never socialize with them. Keeping them as 'people you know' rather than people you socialize with or friends. If you socialize and become friends with them you open up yourself for them to mess with you. If you don't become friendly with them it will make them respect you and not mess with you since they don't know you too well to get involved with you.
2. Always avoid going out with your gf and friends: this is always bad because with more people around you lose control of the situation. When in a relationship the man is the leader and the woman follows, women look up to men that lead them. When you are with lots of people you are nolonger the leader, and you might seem weak and you never want your gf seeing that.

Think of it this way. When in a group of people you are always competing. You go out with your gf and your male buddies there is going to be competition whether you like it or not. Whether it be your friend trying to look and sound the coolest, to the guy trying to be the life of the party, or trying to sound the smartest and manliest etc. You don't want your gf in this environment where she won't see you as "THE MAN," an environment where you might not look as good as the other people, the same goes for going with her female friends. This is why always keep your relationship to just the two of you and to hell with your friends etc.
 

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What the **** are these replies?

JSH, it's a normal outing. No need to consider it differently or else you will act differently.
 
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why does everybody here think that her friends are your enemies?

the quickest way to your girlfriend's heart is through her friends. if they like you then they will tell her so, frequently, and it will be very good for you.
 

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That is somewhat true although if you do go and they judge you badly, then you've just moved down the step ladder a bit if you catch my drift. Go, but be cautious and don't do anything you woulnd't normally do around her. Don't limit yourself to your actions just because there are a few extra girls around. If they block, fine, shake it off. They're the ones that are jealous :D You're the man.
 

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Originally posted by Luveno
You and your girlfriend are in a relationship. The time you spend together is yours alone. Therefore, it is best to decline situations where you and your girlfriend are surrounded by either her ****blocking friends, or your assgrabbing guys(unless you're really tight with them).

So, to make it easy, don't go. What will happen is that they'll judge you and then try to talk your girl into NOT going out with you...not because there is anything wrong with you, but because they're jealous little eye-clawers. This is high school, man. It doesn't work like the real world.
Luveno is right, don’t go. Oh how I hate ****blockers.

But if you do end up going remember: fight through the blocks, keep your focus on the ball carrier, shoot the gap, go low and follow through on your tackle. Get what I’m trying to say? Good luck
 

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Thank you for all your replies.


Originally posted by A&F Brand Cologne
why does everybody here think that her friends are your enemies?

the quickest way to your girlfriend's heart is through her friends. if they like you then they will tell her so, frequently, and it will be very good for you.
I was thinking that i could use this as an in. My girlfriend really likes me, if she doesnt, she best split soon because i have girls waiting.

The whole first set or replies appear to have a real biased opinion of women, although i recognise the risk inherant in meeting her friends. This is not me wanting to spend time with them as a way of spending time with her, this is them wanting to meet me and me wanting to meet them. I can always leave if it gets too bad as i know some people who are going out nearby.

But thank you all
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't be to intrusive. It's their clique, at the beginning you'll be like a guest. Don't try to be to "in-your-face".
 

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Originally posted by Luveno
You and your girlfriend are in a relationship. The time you spend together is yours alone. Therefore, it is best to decline situations where you and your girlfriend are surrounded by either her ****blocking friends, or your assgrabbing guys(unless you're really tight with them).

So, to make it easy, don't go. What will happen is that they'll judge you and then try to talk your girl into NOT going out with you...not because there is anything wrong with you, but because they're jealous little eye-clawers. This is high school, man. It doesn't work like the real world.
Very true, everything was going great for this chick and me, but when her friends got involved all my hard work went down the drain.

NEVER go on a date with your girlfriend and "friends" cuz these girls can be REAL mean.
 
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I repeat, you guys are completely wrong.

These girls aren't going to try to ruin their girl-friend's evening by being b1tches to her boyfriend. Get a clue. They want the best for their friend, and I seriously doubt JSH's social skills are so inept that he actively drives new people away from him.

you'll be fine. Make a good impression, but don't make a habit of this.
 

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Lol, all that effort for nothing, thanks for the input. It all went fine, except for my friends. Her friends all were interested in me for about 5 minutes and then turned back to doing nothing really. However, i had fun with her. Unfortunately, my friend who i brought (she said i should bring someone) tried to hit on her friends (i guessed this would happen and failed), but he was in a crude mood and talked to my gf about wanking and generally made an ass of himself. Then he made us follow her friends to another bar, which they lef after a while.

I had fun, one of her friends really likes me and is really nice, the rest of them semed to be uninterested. Anyway this was just the first round as these were her school friends and not her real "best friends", Great. Ahh well, i played it cool and had fun, i just know next time to go on my own.
 

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Um.
Don't go.
In any kind of relationship, you need to let the girl have some time and space for her own fun with her girlfriends. Let her live her own life. Give her a little sense of independence from romance.
If you're going to be out with her and her friends like its just a casual thing and it's no big deal, not only will it ruin their whole "girls night out" kinda deal, it will force her to take you for granted - she will see you a little more of a friend and a little less of a lover. You do not want this. You will lose respect.

Don't do this kind of thing unless it's your harem and you are the obvious dominant leader of the pvssy pack.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by gRiM999
Um.
Don't go.
In any kind of relationship, you need to let the girl have some time and space for her own fun with her girlfriends. Let her live her own life. Give her a little sense of independence from romance.
If you're going to be out with her and her friends like its just a casual thing and it's no big deal, not only will it ruin their whole "girls night out" kinda deal, it will force her to take you for granted - she will see you a little more of a friend and a little less of a lover. You do not want this. You will lose respect.

Don't do this kind of thing unless it's your harem and you are the obvious dominant leader of the pvssy pack.
Lol, id already gone, and guess what, im going to ignore your advice. Thanks for posting, however, i already let her miss me enough. They werent her real close friends, i bet i know stuff already that she hasnt told them. I think im advanced enough to break the rules.
 

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Originally posted by JSH
Lol, id already gone, and guess what, im going to ignore your advice. Thanks for posting, however, i already let her miss me enough. They werent her real close friends, i bet i know stuff already that she hasnt told them. I think im advanced enough to break the rules.
even better :cool:
 

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Just go out and enjoy yourself.
 

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it's always good when someone does what they feel they should do instead of what other people say they should do.
 

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Originally posted by teencraft
it's always good when someone does what they feel they should do instead of what other people say they should do.
Amen.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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