"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hey guys and gals...

My girlfriend has a guy friend who is totally obsessed with her. The complete AFC in every aspect. My question is, how dangerous is it to have this guy associating with my girl? He will meet up with her for lunch and hang out from time to time. Recently they have not had the chance to hang out, and the g/f acts like she dosent care about it. She brushes him off like its no big deal, as do i. The kid is a loser in my mind and i don't see a big threat...how would you react to this guy? Recently he left her a message saying that he was "not going to give up on her".

-FD
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just laugh with my girls about such things.

Don't make fun of him or anything, just say, "poor guy... he seems so nice."
 

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There is nothing to react to here - he is no threat.
 

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Thanks for the quick replies guys!

Thats what i thought...i've just been playing it cool- i've been meaning to ask some fellow DJ's their opinions about this. It's quite funny how these type of guys try to get girls! Maybe if they worship them enough, buy them everything on the face of the earth, and tell them over and over how much they mean to them...maybe, just maybe, one day they'll win over the girl!


Alphathree: I've acutally said those exact words to her when she brought him up. Simply chuckled about it played it off.

Glad to hear its no threat...

Take care

-FD
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Fumbduck
how would you react to this guy?
With a touch of sadness and reminiscence but ultimately maybe a fleeting giggle to myself whilst I watch the cvnt walk to the bathroom with my cvm dribbling out of the crack of her ass at what the poor bastard told her "not going to give up on her".

But thats just me, and thats about it.
 

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Originally posted by Sasha
FB, just make sure he never EVER finds out about sosuave.net :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
LOL.... watch him pull some advanced NLP, and MAVEC



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This is improbable but it is also possible. Just say you have a fight with her and you really piss her off and she runs away thinking you’re a mean bastard. Then she calls up this guy and says i just had a fight with my bf can I come over. She goes over and the guy hugs her to make her feel better ect ect when she’s in his arms she realizes he’s the total opposite to you and all these raging emotions she’s having she thinks that’s what she wants whatever isn’t you and she fu*ks him.

Think about that man.

Ninja out
 

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Originally posted by Black_Italian
This is improbable but it is also possible. Just say you have a fight with her and you really piss her off and she runs away thinking you’re a mean bastard. Then she calls up this guy and says i just had a fight with my bf can I come over. She goes over and the guy hugs her to make her feel better ect ect when she’s in his arms she realizes he’s the total opposite to you and all these raging emotions she’s having she thinks that’s what she wants whatever isn’t you and she fu*ks him.

Think about that man.

Ninja out
Not even worth thinking about, all regular to hot b1tches have a long line of backup AFCs they can and often do go crying to when she needs reassurance or whatever. And even if the chump did happen to luck out and fvck the b!tch, then what? Its not like it would be a permanent type deal. Who cares if the b!tch picks this loser to make her feel "special" and give her an ego boost?

The whole thing is irrelevant.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How about this,

This AFC floods her with affection, pays for her, LOVES and WORSHIPS her when they hang out. Now she wonders, why dosen't my b/f do this for me. Why isnt he into me as much as this guy is? True she walks all over him and has little to no respect for this guy.

Dangerous?

-FD
 

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What? your still worrying about this tool, cmon man snap out of it.

Originally posted by Fumbduck
How about this,

This AFC floods her with affection, pays for her, LOVES and WORSHIPS her when they hang out. Now she wonders, why dosen't my b/f do this for me. Why isnt he into me as much as this guy is? True she walks all over him and has little to no respect for this guy.

Dangerous?

-FD
No. As long as your still the prize in her chick mind. Like I said before yeah she very well could fall back on the AFC if and when she needs her ego stroked and romantic fantasy reassurance but it would only be temporary and who gives a sh!t if she does anyway?

What are you going to do to stop her if she does? take on some of his AFC traits, stoop to his level and compromise your manhood just in case she REALLY does want an AFC? Pffft yeah right.

Forget him, hes nothing to you.
 

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I see what you re getting at, like, what if she starts to have some feelings for the guy, hey you know what, lol, if the guys starts using SS he just might take her away! Lol, but I dunno, there is an old saying that goes like this: If you do yo duty wit the booty, then you wont have to worry about losing yo cutie!

So what I am saying, just make sure your game is tight, and make sure, repeat, repeat, make sure YOU have some little female friends as well that SHE knows about.....you know, just to level the playing fields just in case this guys starts using SS or starts attracting her is will remember and say: Oh no! I cant do it, because I have the prize at home!
 
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