Girlfriend wont put out anymore

[Sp1kez]

Heres the background: Been committed to this girl for 3 months now and everything has bene amazing so far, fast forward to last week:

Out of the blue she asks me "If I ahdnt had sex with you would you still be with me?" and I said yeah (LOL) then she asked me what I would do if she said that she wont have sex anymore until we are married, to what i said it would be very stupid since we already have and that If she did I'd have to marry her right there ont he spot(LOL).

well we jus ahd an argument because she felt that the relationship is just about sex.......she said that she hates the fact that whenever we're not having sex, Im trying to have sex with her.....(whatc an I say i get horny) and its not true....we spend lots of time together and have sex like every 3 days or so but sometimes its couple days in a row... so I told her "fine Ill stop trying to have sex with you(I can get it somewhere else if she wont give it to me)" then she said that that is nto what she wanted because she loved to make love to me but she just doesnt want to do it all the time......but ITS NOT ALL THE TIME(I WISH IT WAS) so this is what pisses me off....

How should I play this to keep having sex constantly? I care a lot about her and I don't want to loose her but if she just wants to have everything but sex I might just have to get it somehwere else.....any advise?

 

[DJMaC23]

She feels like a cheap w hore right now. Undo that feeling for her, and make sure she knows that you banging her brains out is one of the ways you express your attraction/love or whatever to her...be sure to chill with her on some nights though, no sex just chill...don't make the relationship too routine

 

[Wyldfire]

Most females don't have as high a sex drive as males do. If she's just not in the mood and you push her you run the risk of her beginning to feel like having sex is a chore, resenting you and then actually associating sex with negative feelings.

The best way to deal with this issue is to do some things that will put her in the mood more. Men get aroused easily, quickly and often. That's not the case for women. If you want a woman to want and enjoy sex then you need to make her feel good about herself and you. Take your time and act like you would if you were trying to get her to want you for the first time.

If that doesn't work then you'll just have to try to meet each other half way and find a solution that works for both of you and doesn't leave either one of you associating negative feelings with sex.

 

[MindOverMatter]

There are two ways you can solve this.

1.) The ethically correct way. Do more things with her that don't revolve around you taking your d!ck out, and fulfill her needs outside of a healthy sex life. Do something fun with her and give her some nice memories. If she still wont have sex with you then, tell her the bad news and move on. Don't be a sucker who gets forced into marriage by a girl who withholds sex.

2.) The "don't take no sh!t" way. If she will distance herself sexually from you, you distance yourself emotionally from her. Spend less time with her, and make her second guess her decision until she breaks and changes her mind. Sleep with other women if it doesn't bother your conscience. And if it does, remember that there is always the possibility she doesn't want to have sex with you because she's getting it somewhere else.

Either way you go with, always remember that despite what she may think, her p*ssy is not made out of gold, and if she wont fullfill your sexual needs, some other girl will. I'd say go with #1 (a year or two ago I would have gone with #2, but hey, we all get older eventually), and try to change things for the better. If it doesn't work, it's time for you to bounce.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

maybe youve got to work on the stage immediately after sex. djmac23 was right on when she said she feels like a ***** right now. tell you what. try this. hug her more after you bang her brains. i mean try it when shes lying on her side. lets take it shes on her left side. try pressing your body against hers and put your arm between her breasts after you have sex. it helps her avoid feeling used.

 

[DJ Alejandro]

if shes on her left, use your right arm. and vice versa. good luck!

 

[insanity]

Sp1kez it's like being a millionare and saying to a woman, if i lost all my money and we had to live in a car for a few months, would you still love. she might say yes. but in reality, if it really came down to it, she'd be gone.

now don't take offense to this, but maybe she's using the i don't sex line anymore till we get married because-
a) if your young, how many guys want to get married. scare tactic
b)she's trying to take control of the relationship.
c)sex sounds like a chore to her. why would she complain?

or maybe she's feeling guilty about not feeling that special way about you anymore and wants to see other people. it all depends.

men and women do it all the time. there's more then meets the eye with this chick.

 

[DJsparky]

let her fook you in the a$$ with a strap on, it might make her feel better.